Men have power that women hold for control. This is a striking statement to opening a chapter in a business book I must say. It took me days to digest the contents and by the time I got it, was when I read the last page. Both the title and the authors are feminists, and they selfishly got away with it seeing that it's been long yet heard nothing of it to this day. The book is good, I wonder why it didn't get revered in business circles.
The book is written by two women, a clinical psychologist and a sex therapist. One is a divorcee mother of two teenagers while the other single with one beautiful daughter. Let me sum it up by chapters interesting to me.
What's his star sign? This one, I'll never forget 'cause it said quite an ink full about a lot of horrible stuff concerning it that it made me feel somehow as if one of the authors is either hurt by or failed to net a Gemini. They say you can tell by the man's star sign if you will last or not (talk about compatibility) with them. Jumping straight into my sign, said a lot of them are flirty, kinky experimentalists who should be leashed. One other issue being that because of their foursome divided nature, this sign is the capital of extinction in alpha males. Said also at length that they desire freedom even in times of need for the opposite gender. Though one positive section I loved was when highlighting that there's never a dull moment with a Gemini, and but expect a lot of drama with them (that I salute).
Who initiates sex? Men who are afraid to sweet talk you into mating are not a rare find and are a turnoff. Women shouldn't be the initiator in the beginning, a man should. If a woman does initiate mating it means she does really adore the man and but wouldn't appreciate it if she has to be doing that almost all the time as it feels like it's a forced activity to you and also to others at times hinting how unwanting of you a man is.
How he plays with you. A woman wants a man who draws a map of his intentions about his woman on her bare tender skin. How he advance the sensitive parts says something to her about that man. Is he gentle? Is he rough? Is he focused or nervous? How is his hand corresponding to the rhythm of his breath? Does he breath through the nose or mouth? How is his tone in his talk? (Does it serenade or annoy?) Such tells the woman how seasoned you are in that territory. It informed me how thorough a woman is when she wants or if she is interested.
His positions. This is personally my favorite (not that I'm a pervert but just couldn't believe how mating is used against a man, even in business). A man is gauged by the positions he make love with. Whether he is spontaneous, or bold, or safe? A lot was said in this chapter. The spontaneous type is a catch to be kept. Their versatility a welcome to any woman out there for they are a gem, and with them expect fireworks and a bliss that kicks embarrassing situations out the insensualization window. Positions with this type an infinite trail. Then the bold, these ones are good for some days and not every time as they tend to be too sure of themselves and at times using vulgar in their dirty talk, a huge bore. These ones are the spankers (makes most women feel cheap) and never apologize after being reprimanded. They tend to stick to what they know and satisfy themselves always. The latter, the safe type, is loved by the church-going ones. They are the one-lane type when it comes to mating, the always make it in the bedroom types with lights off. To seal it, said the spontaneous type is the high-risk takers who knows to walk away easily after a loss, and not the one who's grudge-holding. Said the bold are good negotiators but they are bad at reading between the lines in the process of it all. They also are dominant, and taking over not always a necessity in that it's the surest and quickest route to creating enemies. The safe type, they said, are risk perverse and calculating each of their moves and that is timidity. Because of their apologetic nature, they tend to take longer to get what they want, and that in any set up a clear sign of weakness. So, as a corridor banger, I kind of got it and was fascinated at the result I am.
His walk aftermath. How he turns and face backward or stares at you with that magical gaze a statement on its own of his stance with you. How he jumps out of bed to the toilet or off in a rush to somewhere after mating, tells you the kind he is. How he crawls out of bed after mating, bare or clothed, is how he'll be whenever there's a win or loss or challenge in the business relationship. The walk of a man to and from bed informs her of your gratitude or arrogance before and after laying her. The same applies in how you approach the table in negotiations or how you handle your position corporately and socially. But, what is most important yet dangerous is your attitude after every event that has you printed allover it.
His commitment scale. Women can tell from smallest of things if a man is the type to commit or not. A simple and innocent thing as typing a text message or taking his time to read her writing patterns and tell her moods, it all sounds too much for some but all worth it if you do care about her. Your dedication and care to many unnoticeables a separation of a man from others since it highlights your scalability of commitment in future endeavours with her.
Her commitment scale. Women are a different species. Everything about a man is on the checklist and the metrics of each scorecard a dynamic pattern only a man will take forever learning. Men are strong physically but women directing the power they possess. A man who fails that test ain't worth keeping, so might as well cut him and pass on to others until you find the one who is an omnifit, whom you can plan around and groom to your own taste. Any woman is attracted by a man who is feared or respected by other men. She positions herself guided by that, before physique and other features, pity for the man a blinding game of grey denomination that leaves him strutting his stuff all for nothing. A woman has her ways around a man's body, and how she strokes it done in such a manner that's to her taste, slowly evoking a man's muted features to life and muting those known to him for those are the ones he'll use against her like he did with his pasts. Once he responds to her to how she wants, can she be his. A woman knows from that point that you are the one or just a random fling.
In conclusion: the last chapter, "the step-out lesson", is short and clear; You suss a man out first before you lay with him, and gauge him when you lay with him, then conclude on his behavior after mating if you are to commit to him or not. If he doesn't cuddle your culture then a miss. The same case with business.
For me, what an unorthodox ending. Never in my life had I read a book with a three-lined chapter. And, trying to find the reason why this self-published book is scarce, couldn't win. Is it maybe those who bought it hid it away from their spouses or partners, or what, since it ran low print numbers? Your guess, isn't as good as mine...
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