[Show gratitude]

This past weekend I experienced a blast of seasoned talent, thoroughbred skills, polished maturity, and genuine intentions, all gathered in spirit of success to achieve as a collective. Pity one in them broke that spirit of nestled blessing of soles. That one shattered the care and love showed to them, and that one unfortunately was me.

I know how dampening it feels to be made to feel your craft and devotion aren't appreciated, and I turned back to do same. The key takeaway for me here is that humility can't be bought and is respectably expensive, regrettably. My choice of behaviour left no honey in the pot for anyone who's attracted to ever wish to taste. Never had I thought I'd be a waste of existence to another's importance I so needed for long.

Self-esteem exaggerated worth an exegesis to the emotion tested. Self discredit I moulded in shape of my shame a result of decharacterisation portrayed. I just don't deserve a smile in kind from them. I know what I are and what's expected of me to them, and I brought the downside. From tomorrow on I'll be reversing my unme tendencies. Hope the remake of me be a better retake to frame, remodel and repositioned.

In conclusion: my growth, same as everyone's, is an everyday dilemma. My disappointments a threat to my day's now and future, I should've known better. I can't secure my peace in defense, and same is true with my gratitude. I should've been the better me, the qualified frame everybody elected to be surrounding, the he who over and over promised to be the version of humble, trust, unity, strength, exuberance, and empowerment. Sorry I advanced the D-game instead and proved to be impossible to work with, though having had such tremendous skill on set made it look like was the usual norm that thus taught me to respect the role players in the process. And but, however my bad performance and empty shelled me I was in the process, I am grateful to everyone who played a role in making the magic happen, sans your occupation of space it wasn't going to materialize. Thanks to you all...dp

[Invisible achievements]

How the world views achievement in a materialistic fashion solely a big worry of this now times. A person will tell you how cheap a car you're driving, but then a surface scratch to their background find that even their parents couldn't afford a scrap, let alone dream of owning one. A peep into their sound signature, most of the music they listen to a worry to start with, the root of all going forth wrong.

Ask such type about what they'll do should they win a lottery, and you'll be shocked by the disappointment uttered. We live in a society that is troubled. The now generation worship vanity and are proud of it. My worry is they pretend to be loving each other but not liking the best in their next. If things are like that, how do you expect any advancement of a generation?

Today, because of flouting validation by others, material the reference point for anyone voicing progress. We forget about what achievement is. Gratification of glorified quick-dry palatable winnings dominate headliner highlights that carry entitled honour. To them a paper used to start the fire today the same paper that's to do same come tomorrow. Life a rot in the lane with such.

Not every achievement is worth a loud speaker, some are personal and some are for public, and also not saying there'll be a material reward for show to can say is an achievement. There're many things done that go unnoticed like even with you when your parent celebrate your pass in class, or seeing you deliver a good group debate, no matter how insignificant to the other that may be but not to your parent. I often here how young ones say that they won't listen to someone talking money but not having a million cents to their name. I pity them silently.

The mentality that's running in them adds to the mess we see daily in our homes. The process of working hard is overridden by instant riches resulting from different fabled fleece schemes like forex, retail share trading, and crypto mining and its trading. We no longer believe in what you say but rather in how you present yourself. This escalates to even the home front. Parents nowadays can't reprimand their children because they aren't good enough like the friend's parents or neighbours, money drives respect.

Making money should be filling the now generation's heads not spending it. What do you spend if you ain't got a dime made and saved?

In conclusion: I know of people who once were up there who'll tell you about what they achieved in life and lost, but flop is if told to a stranger won't believe. One of them is a spiritual motivational speaker now who uses her life story as her point of reference. She's been there, been that and today a has been of note. Her past a rich source of information that to date still relevant if be given a chance by the now generation.

There are people who are achieved but not celebrated because they aren't good at public display. We can go on and on the list on things worth the noise that are but muted. Again, having money doesn't say you've achieved, it's all about the end goal. If you succumb to small minded people you'll end up deviating from your life story, share with those who care to learn from yours and keep bettering self, and whether they choose to see them or not, it's your achievements. The fact that you're seeing nothing on them doesn't conclude there's nothing about them, and maybe it's, just that you're looking for something other than that. Invisible achievements...dp

[Treasure your reputation]

Some fight for custody of their dreams, some for control of their investments, others for value of their voices, and some for a place in the mind of their targets, while others for their worth to be recognized, and then comes you. Now the question is, "what are you fighting for?"

I met some young man who's responsible for happiness of his family. He said to me whilst in a materialistic conversation that his fight all of his time after high school has been for reputation. Said it's through that that he's able to put bread on their table and smile on their faces. He at some stage in the talk asked what I'll do and for how long to build and fight for protection of my reputation. I just looked at him and purposely said I don't know. And just by that, he cut the conversation and said his adieus. He was disappointed I could tell.

Reputation made men and women be, it built corporations, grew world population, and gave rise to love and hate. Partners rely on one's reputation when considering ventures, consumers decide on the reputation of a brand when purchasing, as such anyone should put much effort in building and protecting theirs. Reputation is both a magnet and a repellant, be very careful with it.

And because of today's intrise thinking, the damage to reputation has proved to be a quick erosion to one's solid name and proven timeously that it's thrise expensive to restore. The internet makes life easier whilst simultaneously making it harder on the other hand. It's now easy to sensationally tarnish an entity's name without any facts backing up the rubbishing claims, and get away with it without any consequence. Bad news run faster than good news, and the downside being unproven content.

I know of one social media influencer who once rubbished someone and in a day was losing credibility, and two days later came back to reverse the claims. It restored the name but was never that strong as before that. Reputational damage a game to some but hurtful and costly for the one involved. Reputation management is now an industry on its own and those who still don't see reason for it are in for a long haul.

In conclusion: sometimes people are there for you because of who you are. At times some things are done for or made possible for you because of who you are. Some people may be assisted just because of your name or presence attached to them. All this things are happening because of your repute. So, if there're any gains for you that results from that good repute, keep it intact no matter what, and fight for it if you can. Reputation might not be all things but an everything key, is expensive. It is the currency to all currencies, don't give it off cheaply, treasure it...dp

[Being the boss]

Yaah,,,that feeling, nobody can say no to it in secret yet publicly saying no to it. What people tend to forget is the fact that we are naturally by default bosses all of us and just that we don’t all get the chance to be in the commanding chair, but everyone is first their own boss before anyone bosses them. Being a boss isn’t same as being a leader unfortunately though. Being a boss is easier than being a leader though tough in that it’s the quicker route to losing favour and people.

The reason a lot of you denies publicly your desire to be the boss is that the responsibility that comes with the role doesn’t suit just about anyone and also because of that a lot of you fear to be scrutinized. Being a boss entails you being wanting, endlessly commanding, unfazed by criticism, heavily loaded with guts and taking no for an answer, and as we all know not everyone can pull that off as we ain’t the same.

Most of the boss attitude comes out when the wrong sole is given the wrong role. This goes to show  how much not everyone can boss successfully in spite of being the boss. Truth is, if be taken for a parade to a focus group, a lot won’t come out as good bosses. Being a boss doesn’t go along with shyness, humbleness, tolerance, rationality and friendliness, as such shouldn’t you. It’s a tough act to keep the mixed repertoire of being the centre of attention, the forceful go-getter, mean faced and ever blame shifting, and results driven.

In conclusion: how does it feel being the boss vs how does it feel being you? What makes one be the boss? The bottom-line is the uneasiness you make others feel whenever you’re around and but not how it should be. A boss should be forcefully respected, listened to, served under, and feared. And now, given the courtesy a boss should be afforded, do you still want to be it?

One may argue that ‘boss’ is just a title that has nothing to do with one’s state of mind, status and behaviour, but I will always see it differently. Boss as a position has an effect on one, make you stand out and matter, change your count of fortunes, and make you a statistic that only you will make it shine or rust...dp

 

 

[A pvt collector's item]

Ever been made to feel you're nothing more than just an afterthought by a naive sole? Ever had to prove your mettle in the eye of an opportunity seeker? Negativity chooses whom it sticks to, and so is same with positivity, to sum it up. There's nothing discouraging and disappointing like having to beg for your assistance to be seen as valuable. This is what some of today's talented wannabes would make an opportunity bringer feel.

The elephant in the room here is one's attitude towards opportunity and people. I can tell a lot of stories about that but it's not the time now, but there's this one in particular that's relevant to the topic of the day. There was this good music maker who produced fine works but due to his bad behavior displayed in meet up with a radio station's music compiler who listened to his music but didn't feel like compiling it or sharing it and instead put it in his private collection.

And because of his influence, the compiler put his word out that the musician's music is just that, a private collector's item, and the sponge squeeze that bought it never shared it and played it to brag with when with their guests to impress them. It gave the musician status of making good music but not for everyone. Then one day a promoter asked the compiler why aren't they pushing that musician, and he said his material's sadly a private collector's type and that breaking him mainstream an injustice to his self-importance. The next thing the promoter did was avoid the musician forever. This happened because of none other than himself through his attitude.

If you want to be something in life you're an opportunity seeker, and as that you need to be a commercial item that'll be worth selling in the mainstream market before your sellables. It is disappointing to point out that 90% of the time it's young people who do the opposite of what they want. Things like pretending to be too busy to answer a call or be ever unavailable, too knowing yet clueless, too lying for the falses they fail to justify, too expensive for their own success, in fact they're just too negative everything, and these all work against that which they want to achieve. Thinking that you're more important than others is a counter to you.

But then again, talent alone isn't enough as it's replaceable, many more want that very attention you're snubbing and should they get it would show you how being appreciative an opportunity seeker should be. The sad reality is that an opportunity bringer can't make you like them if you're not into them, and the vote on choice still rests with them. Begging a beggar bores opportunity bringers to sin, and very tiring hence they move very quickly to the next best thing, but be not fooled by this sentiment. Opportunity bringers do enjoy the thrill of chase and but not your way unfortunately.

Opportunity bringers will at times after enduring the fair shame of chasing after you, make you feel their weight and that's dangerous. It's not out of spite, but out of teaching you about the value of others to your talent. At times be plainly to make you feel the wreath of opportunity wasted by naivety. Think of their investment on you, their pooled connections, their years of knowledge, and where they can take your dream in a matter of just days as opposed to your years' dig.

In conclusion: good attitude will give you plenty of access and attract you to good things you want. If you're to be a collector's item, let it be out of your own terms and not by another's. The moral of this article is simply that it only takes you to be the YOU you wish to be, starting with your attitude or else you'll remain as just that, a private collector's item. Work on being the glitter that attracts opportunity bringers in their moments of feeling the need to start something...dp

[Pain of wishing good]

'Even with all the the technological machinery a farmer may have, he cannot work his land alone sans the help from others' [1]. The same good you want for yourself should be for the other. For some its not possible to wish good for another no matter their relations, they believe all the praise should be directed to them only. It should take the same amount of energy you put in your own prayers to put behind others as well, so they too meet their luck. Doing so freely a sign you're ready to grow sans being threatened by growth of others.

It really doesn't do any harm to your success or being to grow another person. If you see the next needing a stepping stone and you advance to them yours, you indirectly advance yourself too. It isn't worth hoarding all the world's goods for self sans sharing. What greater good does it serve to have one carpenter carving stools for 300 lay persons alone, while they could teach 2 lay persons the skill of carving their own stools so they tomorrow can do for others and make a living from that.

When you help others to do good, it gives you a feeling I can't literally describe, but living you lively. Better is when they succeed through that effort of yours and thanking you. Nothing truly beats that. But then, be this daunting feeling of seeing potential in someone and but not allowing you to take them to where they want. It leaves you with a bad feeling. At times this results from age difference, philosophical approaches, market dynamics, and archetype misfits. But one thing for sure is that it's painful wishing good for another who's believing and seeing things differently.

In conclusion: it doesn't help forcing your knowledge on someone's vision if they're not open to inputs, especially from you at times. However they want their dream to be, let them be. Bear in mind that as a people we're wired differently, and as such should embrace the fact that even in commerce we won't lead or partner or follow asame, and that's the beauty about life.

How'd you feel if someone came and took over your dream? Think about that on the one rejecting your help. Sometimes it's not about hate for you but rather one wanting to learn their own way for success their own way, and you being a part going to rob them that. Truth is, not everyone wants a quick success, and not everyone wants shared praise, so let them peacefully be and only attend to them on what they specifically asked of you sans going overboard to avoid jinxing it. Learn to give help with only hints of what it can be before how it should be done. But then, the bottom line is it's painful wishing good for someone who isn't seeing it...

[1] by Kgele Leso