[The pains of development]

At times we clearly are on the fence when it comes to growth. Your immediate environment and its surrounding areas are not the same as then, thanks to development. The challenge we all are faced with now is that of an influx of foreign nationals into our central business districts. The numbers are alarming. Some may lament opportunities they lose of employment due to that fact, high crime stats, and so forth, but I’d like to touch on rather a different subject we choose to turn a blind eye on.

Language and lifestyle dynamics

Due to them being on every corner, our young bloods tend to be too close to them and results are teenage pregnancy, drug abuse and high early school drop-out rates. In some countries, people do that in order to qualify citizenship status and social grant claims, the thorny issue often put in hind is the question of language the child will speak at home.

If a child is born out of wedlock, which language should be the first to the child? Also, even if the foreign father marries the mother, it still remains puzzling if we don't have the father's language among the official languages in the respective territory. Then, if the mother lets that pass and let the child speak the foreign language, how will the child cope with having to switch from speaking that language to that of the mother’s when out at school and when playing with friends?

The other challenge which I struggle with is that of squatting. Just imagine this: a girl meets a foreign guy who works at the local mall building construction site. As we all know, construction on such sites takes long to reach completion. They elect to squat in the girl’s one-roomed shack and in no time sire a child. Within a short space of time they welcome another one. After completion there is no other job to do and the man stays on and together at a later stage they get blessed again with another child before trotting to another place to work on another construction project and leaving them behind forever.

Ask yourself how old the first born will be when they try for the third child, bearing in mind that all the sensual activities happening in that very same shack in presence of the child. What that child witness at that delicate stage of development will never escape their mind. What does the future holds for that particular child? What such a situation brings about is the next generation of rapists, wanton youths and mentally scarred hoodlums.

Early childhood development scuppered

Three or four years of age, the scenes a child grasps in their head will linger for a long time to come. What as parents should be doing is shield them from bad and negative occurrences to their upbringing. 

It is not that I’m xenophobic or otherwise, but just bringing to the fore one of the contributors to our nation’s social ills. What needs be told is that this also is the case with our own locals who migrate from province to province doing temporary jobs. On daily basis things happen that in future will impact us in a big way unimaginable today, be them done by foreign nationals or by our own locals.

In conclusion: 'If it’s from the heart, it’ll touch other hearts'[1]. Denying a child a decent environment to grow from is an injustice. Failing a child with a stable language to grow speaking, is a slow poison to both esteem and self-knowledge of the child. Giving a child a habitable and stable home is any young one’s dream and a birth right. Thus will ensure our nation’s moral fibre stays intact, in balance and defensible at all costs.

And, the next time you consume a sippet and flashing to all those who care to look at your expensive horologe, think of the shortcomings of others and appreciate your background. Think of what you can do to help another sole to better a child’s life so as to can avoid recurrences of such mishaps from being experienced further. Develop your local economy with your people being truly empowered, and your country will be the envy of many out there...dp

[1] by KgeleLeso

[Financial adolescence]

The primary price to pay for learning about finances is losing it. When you win, you learn less than when resulted in loss. The value of money is mostly appreciated after it's no longer in our possession, and you starting craving this and that, or wish for this or that want or need.

Money is tied to one's DNA and it in itself is too found. The DNA in money is in its planning for it and it's spending thereafter. Your behaviour unto it is what makes it, keeps it, grow it, and attract it, and if you're too much of a loose cannon, same will apply with it. Money is made to be spent it's no lie, but then again it's no secret that it needs accountability in its wasting. Allow yourself to waste it in that it ends up eroded at times or coming back multiplied. So, no matter how good you may have spent it, it remains not that good to someone, hence it's a waste.

The money waste is either good or bad, but either way it runs the economic activity regardless. Now, one of the DNA characters of money is financial adolescence. This triggers the dopamine more than any other receptor in your helixed system. Everyone knows, there's no better fun than that of spending money and same is no bigger pain than that of losing money. Only the greedy odd feel pain in spending money if plenty. The danger of too much spend therapy is cocooned in its addiction.

Financial adolescents are important to the economy yet bad for themselves and those close to them. Financial adolescence is covered if you spend from a regular basis income source than from a once-off income source. To lose salary through frivolity safer than on a lump sum payout, unless the wrecklessness is on a safer waste spend.

In conclusion: financial adolescence is a powerful phenomenon that brings about a leaf turnover on second encounter almost all the time, less in cases of those habituals. Money in your possession is always experienced differently from when in another's or in thought. Money brings change more than it brings a shift in one's conduct, we all pass through that, it's a non-coded rite of passage we all go through either sans fanfare or with it.

To be honest, it's a must for one's growth in developing a connection with it. Money is an entity, and getting fused with you a legal entity, a mess if discipline is not an order of one innate. Let's learn to allow a certain portion of loss in our incomes to limited and responsible wrecklessness for just the quenching of that desire for it and then start employing our minds going forth. It can't be pointed at as bad a thing but as a stage that's dependent on an individual's workings of maketh, and there for a reason more than it a purpose...dp

[Beneficial enmities]

They say, money buys you a different class of enemy, and I concur. For those of us who don't have much it won't make sense until the day we get there. Enmity doesn't just happen, it emanates from natural hatred, historic relations, family ties, and influenced disfavour. It doesn't matter the nationality, gender, religion, age, race, social status, it just gets subjected unto you.

Many a time you find that the main reason is jealousy. Jealousy stems out of a lot of stuff like success, likeability, life background, and many others that others just can't swallow easy if not at all. What's alarming though, is that, most of the times it's from people you consider close to you. Hate and jealousy don't like imports, they export to you their bad energies.

The crestfallen fact that you need to line up for its enema, is the fact that enmity gets inroads into your system through your very own akin, and that's the worst ever means of betreyal to anyone. So, to be safe, know how to use enemies agin each other. Be the cool stupid, and it'll be easier to deal them contra.

But, one cannot hide the pain that comes with finding out or witnessing a strong dislike from your akin. Thing is, it goes way too deep and having the potential to disunite a clan. A one good fabrication has the potential of crumbling a bonded family. Even though they say, it gets messed by a tongue and can be mended same, but it rarely wipe out the memory altogether sadly, it keeps lingering. There's just no pain like that, and I reckon you know.

In conclusion: people you have a history with are always a displeasure to rattle, so, savour your relations with them. It but should be noted that in business it's always about scores to settle, and being enemies doesn't last longer than rivalry. To have a class of that enemy a safe haven, unlike people surrounding you but with crocodile jaws after your skull to crunch. Better an open enemy to manage than one in your pocket busy sizing you up with every of your move. One secret I leave you with is, align your negatives with an enemy that benefits you, if it doesn't, move on for it's not worth the effort. Tag never an enemy that's useless, for that's a waste of your time and progress. Tailor enemies that gives you growth and success. Know how to invest and develop self around your enmities, that's class. Gauge your tensions, your gains lie in them...dp

  

[Role duty vs fiduciary duty]

What is duty? We need to question that first. Duty, an official or moral obligatory deed to undertake. In essence, by nature, there's a high expectation of one's conduct personally and professionally.

As a person, you serve and be served, and the capacity is for some not of same in that it depends on either the who side they are or the what side they are. But then, before you be the what you are you by default are the who you are, and same applies on duty.

The role duty isn't same as the fiduciary duty, fact being that, in role duty you play your part as the who you are whilst with the role played in fiduciary duty brought by the what you are. As a parent you play a role duty but as a business leader you play the fiduciary duty.

As such, we should remember the weight and responsibilities of the duty that we get to play in either case we find selves in. The responsibility that is mated to any duty at most attracts a consequence and so, one needs to bear that in mind whenever assuming any duty. Account for the success and failure of your play in your duty, that's what we expect out of a leader on personal or professional level. But then, above all, be accountable to self before the other, the core is in that.

In conclusion: therefore, in recordal, it doesn't apply to one side of the equilibrium, but rather a 360 to the entity's executive, self, and others' part to play. Either side of duty, you just have to deliver at your best as it reflects on your personal image still as you as an individual play your part as a follower or a leader in it as a partaker. It further should be noted that both sides of play in duty are equal, with consequences varying a bit. Do your part, we need you in the space for the difference you may bring...dp