[Convenience familiarized]

'Insanity a partial remedy to restore one's slay battered soul, for only kindredship a default consignment of convenience familiarized'[1]. In essence, people draw family from their vocab into the convo only where and when it suits them.

Family is not an inter alia call card. Family is about attachment, eternal bond, and common love. It ties rights and wrongs as one regardless of age, gender, orientation, differences and succession, but a set of homogeneous individuals.

With deeper connections we find belonging that can emerge out of psychic phenomena like being like-minded or common activity based, etc, that brings us closer together, and that is a relationship. Many a times people confuse that with family, that's why when you hit rock bottom with your relationship based person you start thinking of going back to your kindreds because that's where you're certain of comfort and unconditional love and support.

Your family is your root base, not some social succedaneum. If you tell another that you regard them as your family, pause a bit and zero in on your thought before cementing an utterance of such bind. I know we do have that liberty to choose non-kindred family but is it out of genuine intent or just an ulterior motive?

Also, what are your expectations of this family? Are they better than your kindreds? Is it fulfilling being out there with them sans your kindreds? How long are you prepared to stick with them in spite of the ups and downs experienced? A plethora of questions can be attached to that declared statement that but only you the declarant can answer. This though not saying you got to choose sides, just rather you find the balance less out equanimity.

In conclusion: family a convenience familiarized in that it resonates with just about anyone. Its danger is that this familiarity hides benefit, deceit, tolerance and hatred, all because the card caller is a sycophant. In midst of an array of myriad reasons there may be by the card caller, truth is they discreetly long for how you make them feel whenever you're with them in up days when labial storm hits the convex. If indeed are truthful about your stance, will show. Just that you need to be honest to self about such a promise cos calling someone your family a big thing that overwhelms as 'tis an emotional pact and if not, simply refrain from such emotional wrecking utterances. Know always the meanings of what you say and act out, that's how you'll know people for what they're to you and not for how you label them as; for some of us we'll remain as just that, ehh,,truly yaah,,,familiar strangers...dp

[1] by Kgele Leso