[Post Covid-19 nympholepsy]

Today's gloom a glimpse of a melancholic tomorrow, lending a cup full nostalgia of my lovable yesterday. Lockdown a militarist approach that instills recalcitrant behavior in some. Worse made by recall doses of extensions that are injected by clueless leaders who are only eyeing profits over our well-being.

The pulsating throb we used to experience of economic opportunities now a song sung in reversed reverb. The now catchphrases are sanitization, fumigation, inoculation, herd immunity, social distancing, vaccine, stay at home, vaccine passports, and the likes, that have suddenly changed the way we live and do business.

What lockdown does is the enforcement of a new world order. Post this pandemic, the behavior won't be the same. What we used to do socially and commercially will be a brand new exercise. One thing I can't wait to see though is the mushrooming of new industries resulting from a sponge squeeze of niche markets lying untapped. I don't anticipate a host of them but a sure variety. Remember that in every downturn there's a chance of making money from downtrend losses better than in uptrend gains. And also that, 'post-depression an ocean to a drowsy eye, but an untapered perennial stream to a wakeful eye' [1].

The downside of it all is the rapid growth of joblessness. Many companies won't manage to get back to their levels of prior to the pandemic. Some creativity will be sought to revive the economy with a mind open to the need for new markets generation and new business models that will align with those trending developments.

There will be new and version updates to courses in academia and to lawmaking as well to curl into the snug of new industries. New courses and modules to respond to the new order a necessity that'll bring uniform standards and legislative measures. As for some industries, a wave of reform will be in phase-out of their existence driven by peddled transformation, thus extinction of job security for others who qualified solely for that defunct industry. This, saying to us that it'll be wise to employ a versatile workforce, meaning either a person academically qualified at more than one fraternity, or a person experienced in a specific industry and but academically qualified in another, or be a person with a multi-faceted academic qualification.

A game-changer for those going to school going forth, and a sorry state for those recently graduated in soon to be defunct industries. Executives should too wise up by using this window period to start saving and planning for refresher courses and upskill courses to put them at the fore when the revolution kick starts. 2020 should be declared a global gap year and pity so seems to be 2021.

In conclusion: 'readiness a dying breed to the aging preparedness convict' [2]. Saying that you're getting ready for post-Covid-19 an understated lateness. Be in already, that's the only way your mind will start waking to opportunities of an early start tomorrow. The pandemic is in its late hours, so, don't idle in waiting for what's to be come tomorrow. People are raring to launch tomorrow morning and those who'll start planning by then will be off-railed by those launching mid-morning and midday, thereafter latecomers painted as nothing more than nympholeptic followers.

[1, 2] by KgeleLeso

[Target mating: chopping male score out of business]

Men have power that women hold for control. This is a striking statement to opening a chapter in a business book I must say. It took me days to digest the contents and by the time I got it, was when I read the last page. Both the title and the authors are feminists, and they selfishly got away with it seeing that it's been long yet heard nothing of it to this day. The book is good, I wonder why it didn't get revered in business circles.

The book is written by two women, a clinical psychologist and a sex therapist. One is a divorcee mother of two teenagers while the other single with one beautiful daughter. Let me sum it up by chapters interesting to me.

What's his star sign? This one, I'll never forget 'cause it said quite an ink full about a lot of horrible stuff concerning it that it made me feel somehow as if one of the authors is either hurt by or failed to net a Gemini. They say you can tell by the man's star sign if you will last or not (talk about compatibility) with them. Jumping straight into my sign, said a lot of them are flirty, kinky experimentalists who should be leashed. One other issue being that because of their foursome divided nature, this sign is the capital of extinction in alpha males. Said also at length that they desire freedom even in times of need for the opposite gender. Though one positive section I loved was when highlighting that there's never a dull moment with a Gemini, and but expect a lot of drama with them (that I salute).

Who initiates sex? Men who are afraid to sweet talk you into mating are not a rare find and are a turnoff. Women shouldn't be the initiator in the beginning, a man should. If a woman does initiate mating it means she does really adore the man and but wouldn't appreciate it if she has to be doing that almost all the time as it feels like it's a forced activity to you and also to others at times hinting how unwanting of you a man is.

How he plays with you. A woman wants a man who draws a map of his intentions about his woman on her bare tender skin. How he advance the sensitive parts says something to her about that man. Is he gentle? Is he rough? Is he focused or nervous? How is his hand corresponding to the rhythm of his breath? Does he breath through the nose or mouth? How is his tone in his talk? (Does it serenade or annoy?) Such tells the woman how seasoned you are in that territory. It informed me how thorough a woman is when she wants or if she is interested.

His positions. This is personally my favorite (not that I'm a pervert but just couldn't believe how mating is used against a man, even in business). A man is gauged by the positions he make love with. Whether he is spontaneous, or bold, or safe? A lot was said in this chapter. The spontaneous type is a catch to be kept. Their versatility a welcome to any woman out there for they are a gem, and with them expect fireworks and a bliss that kicks embarrassing situations out the insensualization window. Positions with this type an infinite trail. Then the bold, these ones are good for some days and not every time as they tend to be too sure of themselves and at times using vulgar in their dirty talk, a huge bore. These ones are the spankers (makes most women feel cheap) and never apologize after being reprimanded. They tend to stick to what they know and satisfy themselves always. The latter, the safe type, is loved by the church-going ones. They are the one-lane type when it comes to mating, the always make it in the bedroom types with lights off. To seal it, said the spontaneous type is the high-risk takers who knows to walk away easily after a loss, and not the one who's grudge-holding. Said the bold are good negotiators but they are bad at reading between the lines in the process of it all. They also are dominant, and taking over not always a necessity in that it's the surest and quickest route to creating enemies. The safe type, they said, are risk perverse and calculating each of their moves and that is timidity. Because of their apologetic nature, they tend to take longer to get what they want, and that in any set up a clear sign of weakness. So, as a corridor banger, I kind of got it and was fascinated at the result I am.

His walk aftermath. How he turns and face backward or stares at you with that magical gaze a statement on its own of his stance with you. How he jumps out of bed to the toilet or off in a rush to somewhere after mating, tells you the kind he is. How he crawls out of bed after mating, bare or clothed, is how he'll be whenever there's a win or loss or challenge in the business relationship. The walk of a man to and from bed informs her of your gratitude or arrogance before and after laying her. The same applies in how you approach the table in negotiations or how you handle your position corporately and socially. But, what is most important yet dangerous is your attitude after every event that has you printed allover it.

His commitment scale. Women can tell from smallest of things if a man is the type to commit or not. A simple and innocent thing as typing a text message or taking his time to read her writing patterns and tell her moods, it all sounds too much for some but all worth it if you do care about her. Your dedication and care to many unnoticeables a separation of a man from others since it highlights your scalability of commitment in future endeavours with her.   

Her commitment scale. Women are a different species. Everything about a man is on the checklist and the metrics of each scorecard a dynamic pattern only a man will take forever learning. Men are strong physically but women directing the power they possess. A man who fails that test ain't worth keeping, so might as well cut him and pass on to others until you find the one who is an omnifit, whom you can plan around and groom to your own taste. Any woman is attracted by a man who is feared or respected by other men. She positions herself guided by that, before physique and other features, pity for the man a blinding game of grey denomination that leaves him strutting his stuff all for nothing. A woman has her ways around a man's body, and how she strokes it done in such a manner that's to her taste, slowly evoking a man's muted features to life and muting those known to him for those are the ones he'll use against her like he did with his pasts. Once he responds to her to how she wants, can she be his. A woman knows from that point that you are the one or just a random fling.

In conclusion: the last chapter, "the step-out lesson", is short and clear; You suss a man out first before you lay with him, and gauge him when you lay with him, then conclude on his behavior after mating if you are to commit to him or not. If he doesn't cuddle your culture then a miss. The same case with business.

For me, what an unorthodox ending. Never in my life had I read a book with a three-lined chapter. And, trying to find the reason why this self-published book is scarce, couldn't win. Is it maybe those who bought it hid it away from their spouses or partners, or what, since it ran low print numbers? Your guess, isn't as good as mine...

 

[Redressal]

Anybody familiar with the umbrella story? It is a story of patience, opportunity and redressal. It's about a man who had ordered many umbrellas by mistake and struggled to sell them. Instead of returning them for a fraction of their cost, opted to keeping them.

Rainy season came and out he went with his umbrella and living his life normally. Every day reports came in about the rains not going to break soon, and the solution was for everyone to have an umbrella, and up went his sales and when the season came to pass was a happier business person.

Success is not always about you, it somewhere needs luck and favour, and sometimes a result of a mis-check. The golden ingredients of success to date remain still in approach, people, patience, product, positioning, and redressal. What i want to emphasize is the importance of redressal. We never factor that whenever we talk about elements of success, and that is wrong.

We daily make mistakes and constantly rectify them. It doesn't matter in which side of your life that mistake is made but fact is after its commission there's a rectification. In business, the mistake we keep making is failing to call a mistake as a mistake and opt calling it by many nice names to make it light and acceptable, but truth is we only kill our chance at redressal.

What we lack is honesty in pointing at selves and allow being pointed by others for our mis-checks. We instead blame those below us, to make selves feel better. Why don't we visit the truth room in our minds during such times? Why don't we navigate our souls for answers in isolation? Reality is we won't because it'll only make us realize we are nothing different from the next below us and we too should be told how wrong we are.

How many truth telling advisors do you know who are rich? Reason is, the bosses don't keep the type too long on their payrolls. Bosses want those who make them look good and take their falls so they experience no stoppage to their earnings streams. Bosses want no person who reduces them to their level or below, it's called disrespect not advisement. This tells you one thing and that's that those we call leaders aren't ready for redressal.

Redressal is about self knowing of errors made, self admission to role of self in the erring, concurring with the next's blame on us and their solution for amendment, saying it out where you erred and apologize, and being active from the front in rectification thereof. Redressal is not about damage control but rather reputation protection, not about shifting accountability but rather individual and collective responsibility, it's not about cost cutting but about looking beyond numbers, not bullying the victims but being human enough to engage the wronged and restore their dignity before your image restoration. It's about you humbling self and being given a second chance before you forgive yourself. It's about a healing process of both you and the next involved.

Let's learn to schedule sessions with our egos, learn to stand afore our achievements in acknowledgement of others' roles in making us, learn to be more patient with others' mistakes same way we expect them with ours, learn to take heed of our past miscalculations as lessons into our future, learn to be honest in being open about our wrongful convictions, learn to want those seeing us for persons we are around us to aid our groundedness, let's learn to allow for us to be shaped as we forge ahead and shaping others for our growth and theirs, let's learn the value of redressal because it's a good basis for our success as leaders.

In conclusion: business is personal, and needing the courtesy you expect unto your person equalled to it, reason enough you need your all before it gets your all in redressal in order to beat any hurdles in your way of success. Patience a vital virtue to your entrepreneurial spirit that but without redressal like adding water into a dried paint container and expect it to be revived,,,useless...

[Empathy]

'Little less known strangely safer to too known for nothing' [1]. Going through the pages of my past I struggle to find where I did same mistakes just because they will understand my reasons. With you I fail to now comprehend as I feel there's a point in life where you feel somehow you're being taken for a ride, and it doesn't sit well with me for I don't want to give it space in me but you busy helping it dig in anyway.

If you show it to someone out there that it's good creating your own rules as you're free to do and entitled to do so as you're being you, there's no way that person out there won't be doing same as you: if you're disrespectful in another's home then the next will follow suit as you led. It's unfathomable being me at times because I don't know why I'm subjecting my self to this disappointing space I find myself in. So painful being shown the middle finger for ardently trying to help a partner out.

Sometimes people we choose to partner with need to ask selfs how they'll feel if you were the one doing bad to them. Being a business partner to someone is a choice not a birthright, and there's a difference between being close to a person and being near a person, and frankly am now on the fence about where to put you given your sorry ways. Just never thought freedom could be used in your fashion but it's okay albeit at times a patience killer.

Nowadays am nothing but a beggar for your appreciative deeds, situational understanding and good behavior that never show up. Mind you; just like in my case, I got here through other people's liking of my behavior, constant self-improvement and my shift of mindset. It ain't different with you but why act like that? Who'll keep forgiving your "feel good" random stunts? I too am human who deserves to be treated fairly and afforded respect, much as you get same from me and others.

If only you knew how hard it is to give up your own comfort for someone who in turn gives you "I don't care attitude!!" I had gone against my principles to try for your being, but look where it left me. Step into my life just for once and you'll find no joy and comfort you benefit from.

Tired of being a fool. I too want to have growth and happiness, so choose which role you want to portray in my life, a business partner or a friend. Then do also launch your own commission to look into your fitness to contain your own goals and aspirations. It's supposed to be your assignment as you ponder into your rest at each day's end. But remember that too much self-motivation did none any good for they kept lying to selves that their time will come forgetting their days are falling sans any value extracted out of them. Dare to be different and thy difference will guide you differently to your unique path of quest for your glorious destiny.

Lastly, be the empowerer of the empowering source to your life. Do right by you, live right for your existence, and you'll be right to your purpose. Cease being the plethoric decelerator of your success. It really has nothing to do with stress, depression, and what you are, but rather about your choice in faux cheerers of self. Your conduct a rife pathetic telepathic demic that'll never bear any fruits for your future. Enough for the day, and, do think not of me but for me as well, maybe you'll feel how too hot my shoes are to wear. Hopefully, you won't be the same you...

[1] by Kgele Leso

 

[Competing with a non-contender]

Throwing a curveball into an open field hoping for an opponent player to surface and play it back to you? That's the case with someone who competes against you while you are not in it with them.

For many it's easy to say I'd do anything or go anywhere just to get by, but they don't know what it is but just the meaning thereof, that's where they end up; only with the meaning and no deeds. Laughable how they want success but not knowing how to make it. True that: 'Garnered success before achievement a smog in a long winding tunnel' [1]. Stay with me here on planet earth black one and do your generation a favour. School me on your street life and I'll teach you on my street level. Funny how we live on the streets but surviving out of the streets. Cream to me a delicacy that to you only a colour, wonder why still in my face and ears as I gave up my space for you to pace solely in. Unlike you, I'm a businessperson, someone who lives for the hope of his family dream, company vision, partners' expectations, staff aspirations and, consumer growth, and retention. I'm tired of tiny starts, I do small, things that are to small people like yourself seen as mega. Sometimes the correct path is the hardest one to chart, hence my being here and you there though yet competing with me. To be honest, competitor not making an appearance in my desideratum. Yesterday I placed you in the "has been" group, look today found you out flung into a long time ago category.

In conclusion: if death to you the end it all, to me a well-deserved rest. Lifetime achievement award not an ambitious peak, rather a recognition of more still to be done. Great I'm not but best compared to ones goggling at life; keep following me and you're to witness the greatness of the mighty one paving way for me. Please do underline 'way' for I trod alone and if it be 'ways' would mean you're invited, not this time I'm afraid. I am your non-contender, pledge that to peace of your disappointment and pick your peers elsewhere for I'm not in for competition with you but in it for comparison against evolution steerers of industries...

[1] by KgeleLeso

[Trying to escape my individualism]

How many a times have you felt like you are lost in the midst of a morbid topic? Got you,,,yeah right; just came out of a debate I didn't begin with but got cajoled to express my yarcorve sense to it. "Do as the inner voice tells, and the mind will follow to your wakening of crippled epic thoughts"; what's your take?

Living my dreams through others a chapter I tore out of my life's livery theme. It's saddening how many times I got a message from inside but choosing to not listen. How much I discouraged my mind from thinking freely a bucket full of disappointment.

Trapped inside cliques of my soul made me mate just about anything that related to self pity that got me joying attention from those with vague sources yet saying what my ears longed to be grooved with. Given the lines of their messages, peace never engaged my timeline as it wasn't that which I truly felt but listened to.

Frustration by the mysterious shine of their mastery of my problems saw my attitude turn to convex, capturing gained worries of why am I not understood. True that 'feelings aligned better than feelings attached' [1]. Alone I was in the company of familiar strangers all gazing and gaped speechless. Nothing eye saw borne hope to my independent thinking.

In conclusion: being so disconnected from everything and everyone made me stick to redefining my self discovery. Feelings of dreams awashed a cruel joke that is capable of leading a temperamental spirit to an early grave that only a strong wielded persona can evade. Thanks to that I finally figured out what paved circumstances can do to a sole with hope deferred. All those happenings shaved my personality to omnifit the character bestowed to my name. All that I stand for is a reflection of all that stood unshaken from within, and that is the shape gracing your pupils, me. What's left now is for you to decide on this figure...

[1] by KgeleLeso

[Power in nakedness]

When I was new at my current job, I had a problem of disrespectful staff. When you call a meeting they'll say nothing useful and worthy. Then one day I called a meeting and the same behaviour continued.

I then told my PA to organize for my team to come to my place and finish the meeting we held to no fruition earlier on. When that time arrived, I jumped into the jacuzzi and waited for them in my bedroom. The PA knocked and I called her in. To her surprise, I wasn't ready but I said she invite them in into the bedroom together with her of which she just opened the French doors and ushered them in, only for her to stay out.

Seeing the discomfort in their eyes, I told them to sit anywhere they feel comfortable for they outnumbered the seats available in there. In a sec, I could punch the density of their tense vibe morphed by their level of uncertainty as they couldn't tell what's next, of which I used to my advantage because they didn't take their time to know me at all. I asked them to give me answers and the room went dead quiet. To finish them, I got out the water naked to which they all looked away and I said to them, "answers now or I won't get dressed for the entire meeting". Haha, you should've been there to witness yourself. Answers came flying from all directions and then I got dressed. After that, I adjourned the meeting for tomorrow morning at the office and recused them. Going out, none wanted to be last.

Tomorrow morning, not even a single perverted eye could look me straight in the face. Days went by and they started with their petty behaviour and I said to them, "let's finish this at my place later today!!" and hey,,,,none wanted for that, instead they did more than I anticipated. And every time they showed signs of slack I said the wonder words and they deliver. This was the story by one divisional CEO of a multinational company, that to this day still respect. I can't recollect why he shared that with me but was a powerful story that still echoes in my head. The moral of the story was the power in nakedness.

Just like with transparency, nakedness needs to be controlled so you can manage the outcome. However you use it, it should be toward a gain. One philosopher once quoted my words to her when I said: 'you don't know a person fully until you've laid your eyes on them in their wholly bare natural form' [1]. And if you live too much in your head, you can even undress people to reduce your fear of them (that's what I heard but won't say a word further).

In conclusion: nakedness is power. Nakedness is freedom. Nakedness is bold. Nakedness is me. Whoever said nakedness is about your bare skin shown to the public or someone, was right only to some degree because the very skin I see on your face is bare.

Why is it that we block the view of this wonderful sight by those whom we label as nudists, calling their act of freedom and bravery as public indecency? What do we fear and hide in nakedness? Being naked is a display of one's enjoyment in their own skin, an exhibitionism for the natural form of art that is the body. But, above all, the power that comes with nakedness is unequivocally a jibboom statement...

[1] by KgeleLeso

[Nobody with nothing]

Life of business is funny. When you go high you go to your climax, and when you go down you go beneath the surface. After a bout term you rise again and how you come back, be in a different streak. If you've never been there in life, know that you're lucky to be one of those to make that sponge squeeze.

'Being down and broke doesn't say you're out, it simply mean you're in your downside of the cycle and crushing marbles to another upside of the cycle' [1]. One thing I've learned though is that business is about timing, knowledge, people and things, and what people do in it basically up to them how they sustain and grow it, but definitely can't do without knowledgeable people and timing of things.

When you get to my age you constantly keep looking at your back and your sides with a wish that you see someone fresh to assure you that they've learnt. 'What any old voice pray for is a young voice to find and tone their face with enough grace to last them another run as their dab duad before they dock' [2]. Business is static, only people in it evolve. All the aspects of long ago remain to date, to show.

One other thing you get to appreciate about being down, is the time you have to plan, the time that none ever got when they're up. Again, you start visiting your brain vault to search and line-up all the favours you're owed. Truth is that 'you mostly recall about favours when your precious gift is about to be devoured by shame' [3]. Favours in both life and business can buy you back dignity and stability that the next upswing cycle needs though respect for you out the air bricks. Thing is, those you did favours for are the very ones singing glories of your downfall and how you thought were something and others telling it to your face how weak and old you are, and how you now can't do anything to them. What they don't get though, is that to any bad outcome a good does emerge, that's why you shouldn't stop seeing the good in others. Just sift and you'll find that, and when you find it, stay on it in figuring what that good could do for you. 

The only pain everyone in that state feels is that of "now I'm a nobody with nothing". This brings me to this stanza;  "Just when I thought I had it all in my head, wake-up call showed 'twas in my hands all this time_A life I tracked did me no favours, scent of a passed glance I hoped for in fogged mirage_None in my space on the same ground I stepped on,  making me realize how many of a kind we are_This day forth it's me and my own, lead home my trapped soul to corners of my own fall" [4]. That's what your soliloquy will be going about, with bags on both shoulders and in hands, everything gone, rendering your then achievements as nothing but a wiped defunct run that mimicked a marathon before it did a race. The business world is populated by loaned life addicts that forget at times that should their bubble burst, no cushion is there for a snug fall. Shame is always by your side. Life of business is uncomforting. The one next to you might be working closely against you in want of your position, making sure taps remain closed for you, so you need not let your guard down.

During that phase of your life, everyone thinks they can be better than you, do better than you, be seen in a different light than you, but the sad reality is that nothing beats time and experience, nothing beats the cast and shade of you, none beats the sedimentary you are. But with you, a worthy self availed twink who can exclusively stick with a sole as yourself may be formed into dolomite.

In conclusion: allow for yourself to conk and be replanted. What time is in a set back is a moment, and a moment is a temporary thing. A down cycle needs you to fight for it to be a passing glance. The unwanted situation is where you stay longer in and end up being flat-footed. Never relax, have a mantra of "I'm where I don't belong", and you'll soon be out of it for good. Your business carries your family pride, so keep that candlelit...

[1, 2, 3, 4] by KgeleLeso

[Encomium for a friend]

My heart goes out to the man who takes simple people and adorns them his simple shine for him and them to be the same in the eye of the onlooker. How he humbles his ego a lesson I'd tirelessly advocate for others in his position to replicate. I won't stop my admiration for him and his pain of enduring the mockery of his value sharers who belittle him every chance they get yet him naively still giving more of his value to those takers without expecting a dime in return. I wonder how he does it to make it work 'cause as for me not going to break my back for anyone who spits at my surrendered deified status for them, looking at how his sacrifices are disregarded timorously so.

My soul shakes silently for the man who takes his time and effort to upgrade the next with resources limited to himself. If it were me I'd have long had a change of heart the minute I witness unappreciated vibes from the opportunity spoilers. The many times he keeps lessening from his family dream to cover all those he favors a remarkable deed that's to some of us a gesture we can only hope in unvoiced dreams though a regression mode to his family vision. I envy those within his circle of gain and wishing I too have access to his charitable aura. So believing I'd show to the squanderers of his opportunities how to embrace and make an opportunity bringer proud, as I know someone of thy stature deserves to be treated with respect not disdain for his being. 

My mind imprinted the regret of the one who doesn't matter to the shine he's been given. Striking how careless they are at the pressure of the very man sticking it out for them. The way his eyes are oozing with the hope that they help him by doing it right a teary sight to stare at but deserving a glance for a story to be told in future about it. A lot in his circle forgets he is a mortal being and he too has his limits and his forgiveness of their pathological failures a daunt to his hope in them that'll soon wear off. Just can't stand the rate of solid waste he endures to his value. But day will come that some will be left out of the pack for the very reason and that's then they'll only realize how unfortunate it is to be in the cold after a term of opportunities squandered. I now know it's true that luck favors the unwanting and the undeserving many, but regret sticking better to such also.

My spirit feels for the man who accommodates anyone who promises to work hard for their selves and families. A man who sees beyond ethnicity and background, and invest in the other's heartfelt passion for their dream. I take my hat off to him for his unwavering commitment to their support regardless of how they ill-treat him. Having someone as that in my life would be a daily event I'd cherish irrespective of what others may think and say of me to him. At times making me angry how they sit idle for him to still do for them after everything he steals away from his value and future to keep their hopes alive; how ungrateful. I often ask myself how many a person can do and be as he, to have growth in my life that none including me don't sweat for, and only him doing the groundwork? Such favor doesn't reach anybody's vicinity just like that, and only when it does, should be clenched with both hands to never lose it by any chance.

My disappointment is directed to the one who fails to appreciate attempts by a stranger that chose to be a familiar face and name to them. A person who chose to risk his worth for me to be what I want to be and be where I want to be, something a lot of parents fear doing with their offsprings or simply can't afford to do for them, yet here's he offering that to me. I'd hate my life for days if I were to hurt that person. For such a being I'd never tire from telling them how premium I feel for being there with them.

My respect is poured out to the one whom despite his hardships still never give up seeing the good in others. The one who chooses others before himself; my friend...

 

[Grow from your own mistakes]

Don't learn from other people's mistakes, instead just do you and make mistakes that you can learn from. Many a time you find that what drove the person to commit a mistake is not known to you and yet draws up a conclusion on the unknown.

Mistakes are a way of learning. We find solutions in retracing our steps on our process of readying ourselves for our retake. This is what happens with those whom we celebrate today. What they learn from the next is what they do better than them and what they can do to beat them at that. Taking the time waiting for others to make mistakes so you can take another time on the postmortem of those mistakes a waste of both your time and resources. Invest those precious resources wisely rather because the minute you figure out how they failed, they moved on to something else that will be followed up again by ones like you, so, focus on you and your cause because the pathfinders do same, thus they're called game changers and trendsetters.

I have a friend who once told me that I should lose sleep only over my success. Said  that: 'success is ephemeral, hence failure a celebrity of note in many hearts' [1]. This was told to me during a failed attempt at a toast with him and my partner over the deal he just brokered with a landlord, now former landlord, on our behalf as he was not only a childhood friend but also my business consultant.

What he negotiated was a long-term lease agreement that was bearing two relief clauses, namely the step-up clause and the forbearance clause (known as longanimity also). Legal and corporate jargon only groove your ears when you're winning as they are for you not against,,,,,mhhh,,you know that.

A lot of startups can benefit immensely from the two, and this is how: with the step-up clause the landlord agrees to you the tenant paying your occupancy in gradual progression. Thus translating to you having a launch phase rental amount for say first four months, then hop on to the momentum phase for another four months, and lastly the sustenance phase for the year's remainder, which will mean you now are legible for full amount rental starting the next year. It goes like; the last highest rental amount paid is your benchmark, but it be cut in half and you pay it once as security and first month rental. It saw us succeed.

Then came the second round, the forbearance clause. That clause meant the landlord will not enforce and ejection order against us, literally saying he won't evict us should we encounter challenges in our operations that lead to us failing to pay rent. It didn't say though, not be paying nothing at all. What it stipulated was simply that after 24 months of undefaulted rental months could we be allowed a period of up to 12 months of not paying our rental (with trial balance proof as the sole condition thereto attached), but only arrears thereof. It was the best lease I've ever signed in my life.

However, hard times followed post the immunity period. We had to pay an exorbitant rental amount that forced us out of business temporarily and but again thanks to having a business consultant, renegotiated the terms that left us eight years in in a five-year contract (the only mistake I made was not asking about what will be the catch thereafter, of which turned to be a hefty 17.5% increase on our rental amount which we couldn't opt out of, but we were in business still at least). With that said, I still don't regret for I learnt a lot and grew from the experience, and mostly grateful for having not listened to naysayers about how expensive consultants are and will do no good for your business.

In conclusion: now, if you were standing by the corner waiting for my mistake, what would you have learned without full knowledge of the contents of our agreement? Let's learn what's right and learn to focus on our own affairs and, maybe we'll grow to be like the industry frontiers we aspire to be.

[1] by KgeleLeso

[In them young]

Parent and child bond is something that you just can't wash away, though can break up, but that's not what we love to see happen, fortunately. Many parents who are in business want to see their children following in their footsteps, even if not shouting about it.

When you build a business you do so with the hope that one of your offsprings would take over and grow it further. But then, should none of them be not interested what will you do? That's the stress a lot of you are heavily weighed with silently. But sadly though, truth is that a child should be allowed to choose what they want either outside of family or inside, and shouldn't be made to feel guilty about their choice.

Everything starts with the upbringing. Interestingly enough, that is where you parents sometimes fail in. Early childhood development education is the root of your child's journey in life and if you're not part of that journey the bond is weakened. Many business owners chase after deals that see them neglecting their involvement in their children's developmental journeys. In that alone, the child misses their natural choice that should've been shaped by what you do when tagging them along in your career journey that would naturally be theirs too.

The mistake many make is that of feeding a child with a lot of business lingo at a very tender age, and that is going about it the wrong way. Child prepping is carefully designed in stages and is light. The danger of unplanned prepping is seeing a child starting to be uninterested in their school work and peers because the child is too ahead of the pack.

Learn your child's nature, meaning their character before they develop a personality, and also when they start doing that. A lot can be read from earlier on in the shaping of your child's journey. If a girl child loves playing with her mother's makeup, keep observing and if it persists without outgrowing that, it might be that you're looking at the future make-up artist or model or even an actress, and leading to their puberty should be open about that and that's when you encourage her more. It may also help if in the midst of her tagging along, be slowly developing a division in your business or start a new business or a buy-in into a business of that line and make it her habit. The child grows with that in them, worse be if you start that division or business with her involved in the shaping of it. It'll also help more if you keep referring to the business as 'your business' to her especially if added a personal touch of her own choice of name to aid their attachment to it (but that's no ticket to naming it after her sans her saying).

Have you seen how some parents plant a seed of a child's journey? By simply referring the child by what they adore or said they want to be when they grow up assures them of their choice. For instance, calling your child as Captain Malebana or simply Officer/Captain builds their fondness of that particular career. If you notice your boy child's liking of police officers on tv or around the neighborhood try organizing with them to spend some time with him to hone that passion in them. As he grows you encourage him to enroll for policing studies to later be a law enforcer or opt to open up a private investigations business. That'll see him working with other police officers and but calling shots at his own officers. That'll show others how they can make serious money as a law enforcement official and also that there are other avenues in the sector.

Don't belittle anyone and anything, and your family will do the same. Make your children see life differently by leading them on the path of not being judgmental, and teach them to be respectful and view others' problems as but just challenges that they can provide solutions to. It's about instilling the executive mindset in them, for example; make them see a rubbish collector as a future employee to them, see a rubbish collector truck as a possible future business if they were to start a business of that nature. That way they won't see anything in a bad light but rather with the upside view all the time. 

Empower them by taking them to work so they get to experience your journey and everyday life. That way they'll start being part of the business and best if you start engaging them young with some petty issues that require decision-making and taking. Giving them roles to play in the business and at times discussing with them at home over dinner their feedbacks a gentle nudge to getting them into the culture of business life. This doesn't say you must force them, but do this to only the child that responds well to that exercise for not everyone is a material of business, and if a child is not the material doesn't also say you cast them out. As a parent, continue supporting their choices and decisions with love and as you know, you just never know what tomorrow may bring.   

In conclusion: Reading this article seems easy but it's not I know. Every child is different and how they are unto selves and others nothing any parent can predict but rather focus on managing sans making them feel controlled. Above all, make your child love you and they, in turn, will love what you and what you do. Every parent is their child's hero or heroine, so don't fail them. Work on roping their spirits in while they're still tender, and good luck...  

[Capital Game]

'Play your game left and let never your right left unattended for too long' [1]. The best of life is timed by the primer applied to the surface of your apothegm in delivering the message of a tainted ivy poison pill. Vacuous pledges cementing the nullity of any chance for hope to succeed at grabbing debris of value.

Trapping a capitalist seem a task too simple that's worth not being done by even a namby-pamby neophyte broker. Sailing south the sweet point move arresting the interest of your average yield avid wagerer. How caps are moved not the business of his mission, for only capital gains advantage the volume he stretches his earlobes for. So amazing how careless the very careful risk calculators are the second they peep a glance at their future plated with the cumulation of pips.

Read many an advertorial guised as a story or contributory piece tailored at wooing quick-in divers about the low hanging fruits awash the net if surf well. How they manage to keep hooking their prey with stale content still a mystery puzzle to my undynamic gullible self. Easy to sometimes distinguish between the executive and the non, given away by the lack of flaunt qualities in some. None wants to rest their risk on someone not making them experience knowledge depth, thus making it a bulge soothe to their pockets as they sift through years of layers only veteran gamer can tell of. True that only doubt and fact the saviors of grey denomination seekers in this game.

Out of the online pan straight into the offline fire, hostile takeovers a tapestry of suited other people's entities destroyers. From building nothing to etiolating promising and thriving enterprises a moth-eaten affair with them. The so-called experts tend to be nothing but just a bunch of concept experimentalists digging in and in on neologic propositions with avoidance of accountability and transparency. What's shameful is how they keep collecting from the vulnerable regardless of beknownst consequences to them.

In conclusion: failure in judgment a sui generis suo err. In the capital game, you can't afford to be apocryphal as committal thereof to reversal effect a gain for the misologists and misoneists. It's about wordplay plus arithmetic progression and regression. Selling acidic water tasting with astronomical figures that irons a septuagenarian's jowl will be aggressively playing back the game to them. Them feeling the heat of your chorus will bring you tranquility and restoration of your dignity as a contributor in the economy as they won't look at you or want to touch you ever again. Fight for what's yours and force them to think about starting theirs too. The joyful part of the capital game is that it allows innovation, ploy, and boom boom ciao, and how you defend or sell yourself, a song of balance only your soul will conduct...

 

[1] by Kgele Leso

[Every lie has a reason]

Been long travelling in myself but yet hadn't arrived to my true being. One thing sure I got to know though, is that I am a somebody who wants to be something someday. Every reason to my thinking has its truth and its lie. The neutral path of lie lies in how positive or negative it impacts the recipient of the statement told.

A lie may be to expose a wrongful deed and that is positive though negative as it's through a lie. A lie may cover the truth and in that nothing positive to feed on. In every lie there's a reason behind the story that gets sold or not told. A lie can build a person by how positive they get lied to. So scary how the truth would've done in that instance; looking at its rawness even if be worn sensationalism.

I live a lie that its truth only known by my originator, so are you. Everybody lies for a fact, that's why we all have a secret we will kill for to ensure it remains as is, a secret, and in the name of protecting it will continue to lie. We all lie to ourselves to push for what we want out of life in the guise of motivation and positive thinking. Why then do we label this neutral word negatively? Lie sells us goods we buy and services we feel we need to use, and feel good about on daily basis and we call it sales and marketing, whilst also false truths put to us by paid for content for our consumption, why not call it for what it is, good lying.

In some cases a lie is coloured, white lie. Why dignify it when a liar is being painted bad. The notion of half baked truth and being economical with truth; they're all lies. Some even studied the systematic and generally accepted methods of lying and we celebrate their pathological instilment of lying through big titles they attained. Why is it so hard to call things for what they are? Danger amidst it all being the false lies recoding the past as never before been that gets awarded rights to paint paper with fonts too attractive for truths to be ever unearthed.

In conclusion: curiosity never killed a cat but gave it more ways to protect its life, a truth you were never taught. There's truth to every lie but no lie in every truth and but a lie can manifest into truth if you're to strongly believe in it. Harsh reality is; sell the truth, go home hungry, sell a lie and you'll visit the bank more than once a day for it's got an appeal that makes it buyable.

It's human to lie, but what are you lying for? Again, will that lie take you to the destination "true you"? Aren't you tired of tiring self with guarding against the truth? But then again, it's good if you're honest within self about your lies for there's freedom that lies in lying with honesty. So, every lie has a reason, you just have to create your own and that a fact. Lastly, lie for a better reason...

[Freedom not free at all]

Freedom a loaned permanent word for one's feeling. Freedom a keyword of own space, self-being, abled expression, happiness, soreness, and dignity. Good to have them underlined and ticked in check, pity still that, 'freedom an empty yet powerful state to be in.'[1]

I remember having a conversation with a very filthy moneyed businessperson who told me the sad truth about being where he is, saying; we push with our all to make it. Then we make it feel happy and the same time stress comes of not wanting too many people near you, but that's nothing because 'naturally, power repels the meek'[2]. The other stress is that you can't run your business alone, so you have to delegate roles to trusted people around you whom you've employed. Stress is, the very ones you hired can make a mistake that can see you wake up bankrupt after sleeping the last night wealthy. That's the capital stress of any businessperson, and that's giving people the freedom to be and do on your behalf.

Freedom can come in different guises and one of them may be that of financial breakthrough. Yes, it might be fancy being you for a minute but reality quickly catches up with you on a whole host of issues that are burdened with financial freedom. The first one being the envy of those trapped in the quagmire of pain and sorrow that may be in the form of being stuck in a meaningless job or career, not being able to say what they really want, not affording the diet they're supposed to keep for their wellness, etc, that'll show you that freedom not so free. When you're free, people tend to treat you bad for your status in the beginning if they don't get what they want for free anything that they may demand, with the premise that you've changed and talked you bad.

Freedom a temporary term to a lot of us in our lives. Freedom a wish within happiness in that we are free to live, choose, do, etc, but honestly we aren't free to be. Those who dare be, do so then later backtrack to compliant mode they're known and accepted as subjected to. A colleague of mine told me something profound just the other day during a brainstorming session that; "put a man in a costume that hides their face and see how they'll behave. The results will shock you!!" She further said, "most men are trapped silently and will express their freedom of true self during that brief stint inside the mascot costume." This left me asking myself why is freedom a secret? Why be free when seen not as who you are? This simply saying freedom a loaned feeling.

As a thought and concept, freedom can be everlasting. Such evidenced by how we now are treated as citizens during the lockdown (the era of mask and sanitizer). The rights we know are all trampled upon by the very stewards of then staunch human rights activism advocates who fought so hard for those rights to be enshrined in the constitution but look at them today. Freedom of expression, movement, choice, all taken away from us, and now displaying that freedom has a price tag, is arrogant and knows it's select few.

But then, it seems like freedom is not a good thing. It corrupts soles, disunifies nations and families, seduces power, destroys morality, that's why a bulk of it is never mined at most.

In conclusion: it doesn't matter how we touch it, the subject of freedom remains a pure utter concept. It also remains a skill for one to see how they hold on to it so as to sustain it for themselves, cos others did so by buying their way into it via donating, others via pledging volunteerism, others via essential services provision, but as for others a sorry state of adherence to regulatory guidelines that stole all privileges away from them. So, like I said in the opening round; freedom a loaned permanent word for one's feeling...

[1, 2] by Kgele Leso.

[A seasoned tyro blogger]

As a seasoned tyro blogger, I hope to bring with a new way of experiencing capacitation. I am an ambivert Gemini and for you who knows what that means, I believe you'll be able to keep up with my topical switches. This blog is aimed at curious you's whom will be sharing your knowledge with us and us returning the favor as well.

I had a good chat yesternight with an old classmate who asked me why don't I write about something that'll catch the attention of people faster than abstract business and general topics? I laughed and said to him, business people want to learn, that's it, that's why I've started this blog.

Truth is, we differ and we are similar in difference. But how? One may ask. The statement is an oxymoron, and I bet you some of you don't have the slightest idea what that means, thus the purpose of this blog. The aim is to feed off content that's not hard on the ear yet empowering.

I don't compete with anyone's blog out there but simply catering to you a different menu. This somehow reminds me of the last gig I did with 3SI1 (3 Seasons in 1). We were curtain raisers who ended up being called again back on stage to close after the guest speaker. How that happened was in the freshness we brought to the event. Organizers took a gamble with us and but ended up with an encore from the guest speaker herself.

In conclusion: I am a firm believer in knowledge and its exposure thereof. I share information wherever I go. I believe that's how we'll get better as a nation regardless of our background. As days go by, in numbers will we grow each other and instill the culture in others of enlightening the next over and over again. If you are learning the same thing again and again it is a sign you're not growing, do challenge yourself all the time. I'm Kgele Leso and thanks for taking your time to go through this humble tyro's words. Please do like this blog and direct others to it. Thanks again...dp

[A future unequationed]

'Mahogany a dead lump wood until it's carved into a Venetian red cabinet' [1]. Diamond a rough stone until it's cut and polished that it shines its value. A great person starts at birth with no sign of promise they'll be great but just a spark of hope to their bearer.

Touching the crystal vision with my virtual hand a sensation that never broke through. History filling plans to end from the beginning with every thought becoming a speech. Fulfilment of a tabloid writer gathering memoirs only ink can dictate to paper in shaping the mastery printlogue. So sophisticated just the sharing of space with pleasure of meeting their unorthodox whimsicality shared in person. Great a person not so best in true capture of what mark they are.

Spun enough rounded up flashes of ideas that seemed interesting to your spongy  inspiration. Unfortunately fun will never own the intense and pure human goodness that makes much part of stretching neurodegenerative indulgence an inward affair of the outward outcome. Lost internal flame a humbling sight to the eye that pierce through gapes of choreographed smiles.

Going to college makes you soft I heard; and education the key to success, I was lied to. Told not ever that curiosity a gantry to open window time of opportunity, connections and growth for both personal and greenbacks; changes showing with every look I take at my comings, asking myself if I am the crush of my crush course. Making it feels somewhat like a day without time as standing out more rewarding than blending in, that at times leaving life a slave to be roughed up anyhow you wish to.

In conclusion: if love be an anatomy of anthropology, then what be the tachistoscope of one's adiabatic sapiosensuality? 'Happiness a praline if your desired destination be met where there's no tomorrow but just a litany of past with errors encrypted to create a picture perfect era to period in' [2]. 'Future a lavage development only the lavish time earners can afford in currency we occupy' [3], for it remains unequationed to what we're used to and comfortable with. Vivid how trade off alphabets empower numerals vaulted in a way sought neither before...

[1, 2, 3] by Kgele Leso

 

[Let's be, so we belong]

With death a secret, life to live, love to share, and pain to experience, what's more left of one to add? I hear from your side nothing! Oh,,,wait for it, yeah she's right, to seek knowledge.

Everything we know came to us through learning about it or from it. If we can do that continuously sans breaking, chances are we are going to be in the habit of learning, and that meaning growth. What I love about learning is that it doesn't matter how you approach it but in how you capture the information and apply it in the future.

Knowledge is a neutral word that is neither deep nor shallow, but rather a base of one's reserve capacity. It takes time and effort to be in possession of and a reward to have as a result. As a by-product of education, it encompasses a lot in it like attention, curiosity, attitude, positioning, relations, mental strength, and other factors both internal and external. These factors are influenced by what interest us individually given our environmental impact on our upbringing and the soles associated with us in kindredship or otherwise that we draw from.

We grew up with the notion that you learn through a child's behavior what kind of family they're from, but later discovered it's not a sure case as we all have two sides to us; personality and character, of which are further controlled by our alter ego that adheres to the archetype you are, introvert, extrovert or ambivert. The other connecting factor is the astrological sign that one falls into, hence the fall of the child's family notion. Thing is, everyone is a product of their family before being the result of their selves. To some degree, social issues do change the course of a child's behavior like domestic violence, teachers' hatred, etc, and can't run away from that.

So, with knowledge, one may be able to know more about selves and be empowered to do in build of aspirations of what we are to be with a reflection of who we are. It doesn't matter where you are but learning should be open to you if you allow yourself to be open to it regardless of age, ethnicity, gender, or social standing.

Learning should be fun, just that you need to find your own fun in it. Also, cut specificity out of the equation and you'll see how adapting you'll be. Thing is your level of consciousness will filter what you absorb and that which you're not to. But lest of all, never miss the point of your learning, for there'll be no reason for doing that. Know always why you're learning before what you learn.

In conclusion: education is basic though not free, but the freedom that comes with knowledge so powerful if be forever topping it up. Learning should not be for your academic purposes only as such robs you the wealth of insights that others are dipping into.

Be curious about just anything. Be it a sanitizer you use to disinfect yourself with, know about how it's made, where, and for how long. I know it's too much to process at the beginning, so is the pain of being excluded from a topic you're clueless about in a meeting or a group discussion. But then again, it goes with the gauge you value self by.

Knowledge gives you confidence, dignity, and connections to relevant people and key opportunities you wish to exploit. We fail not because of fear and lack of funds alone but of also closing ourselves out by our culture of non-learning. We are aiding our poverty by wanting to be spoonfed and only until we study selves will we know what we need to do in order to be where we should be with our unlocked potentials.

You're here for a purpose, give it life in learn of the secret of death, and the only pain you'll experience will be of wanting more time to gather more to leave for those loved ones whom you're soon to leave behind. Let's live our true selves, love whom we almost lost, cast the pain of being standstill, and death will find us still full of vigor to go into secret with it. Let's be, so we belong...dp

[Convenience familiarized]

'Insanity a partial remedy to restore one's slay battered soul, for only kindredship a default consignment of convenience familiarized'[1]. In essence, people draw family from their vocab into the convo only where and when it suits them.

Family is not an inter alia call card. Family is about attachment, eternal bond, and common love. It ties rights and wrongs as one regardless of age, gender, orientation, differences and succession, but a set of homogeneous individuals.

With deeper connections we find belonging that can emerge out of psychic phenomena like being like-minded or common activity based, etc, that brings us closer together, and that is a relationship. Many a times people confuse that with family, that's why when you hit rock bottom with your relationship based person you start thinking of going back to your kindreds because that's where you're certain of comfort and unconditional love and support.

Your family is your root base, not some social succedaneum. If you tell another that you regard them as your family, pause a bit and zero in on your thought before cementing an utterance of such bind. I know we do have that liberty to choose non-kindred family but is it out of genuine intent or just an ulterior motive?

Also, what are your expectations of this family? Are they better than your kindreds? Is it fulfilling being out there with them sans your kindreds? How long are you prepared to stick with them in spite of the ups and downs experienced? A plethora of questions can be attached to that declared statement that but only you the declarant can answer. This though not saying you got to choose sides, just rather you find the balance less out equanimity.

In conclusion: family a convenience familiarized in that it resonates with just about anyone. Its danger is that this familiarity hides benefit, deceit, tolerance and hatred, all because the card caller is a sycophant. In midst of an array of myriad reasons there may be by the card caller, truth is they discreetly long for how you make them feel whenever you're with them in up days when labial storm hits the convex. If indeed are truthful about your stance, will show. Just that you need to be honest to self about such a promise cos calling someone your family a big thing that overwhelms as 'tis an emotional pact and if not, simply refrain from such emotional wrecking utterances. Know always the meanings of what you say and act out, that's how you'll know people for what they're to you and not for how you label them as; for some of us we'll remain as just that, ehh,,truly yaah,,,familiar strangers...dp

[1] by Kgele Leso

[Lessons of life in one]

You know, it's true when they say 'experience an irreplaceable acquisition over time that you can procure but never fit to wear'[1] and now got to know how right they were. This very much not a case of ask me no lot I'll ask you not, to be clear.

Today I got out of a wow session with my TEAM. The session left me full of love for what I do with them as a collective. The level was up a notch from the previous one and steadily got to witness true workings of the source, sold by how in harmony we gelled, that it made me realize how back to myself I'm starting to be albeit with new trails of never been in me before traits like being loud and open. Trouble is, I'm not sure if that is a good sign or not as I felt too much out of my confines.

  

The content we churned out gave paths as individuals we charted at times by choice and sometimes unaware. I learned that 'age not a mystery overburdened by trial and error but simply a humbling number pointing out where you've been to where you're going from where you're now.'[2]

Spent a lot of time squandering my most precious asset with pixeled scenes that caused me to lose sight of my purpose in countless retakes I broke my compass with. Today awoke to the realization that 'daytime is not for working on your plan but rather implementation, for nighttime reserved for planning'[3], so I was taught today. How many of us still do that and expect fruition of our hopes and dreams? 'Reality a soft infliction of raw truth that leaves no pain but only an inducement for positivity.'[4]

Days of past gave me one of the capital gifts and that is model acquaintance, that is now at the centre stage of my growth process. Life a gift bestowed with privileged birthrights by the creator, and how we entangle ourselves with a myriad of hopelessness to our blessings a curse so worthless for uselessness. How I failed my will power a shame to my emptiness, for I let nefarious soles taint my purity with activities so deadly to my conscience but now glad I'm awake. My now path showing me that 'sacrifice is a quandary foregoing in whole of that which is of value to you sentimentally or economically, and not that which you give away in part as that just but a benevolent act'[5] and that 'fulfilment doesn't add time taken to attain it, rather enjoyed momentum in it'[6]; something only the determination can do for you.

In conclusion: 'blessing is an intangible element that enables the reward as a result'[7]. It takes will for a TEAM to be solid and aim at achieving the same vision with one voice. The warmth you give, the same aspirants receive and replicate; that's the capital gift called matching and mirroring. People copy what they love and be in do with multitude that which you are, so be that...dp

[1, 2, 4, 5, 6] by Kgele Leso

[3, 7] by Mahlatse 'Sojourner' Modise; (7) not in verbatim.