How does feeling pressured feel? This is what others feel every day. But above all, the lesson is; 'Never leave the force of your habit in the hands of someone, for its soul a dream you alone can commit to, because its achievement not your success' [1]. 'Don't let people make you do with them what ain't needing them in' [2]. You need to learn how to control your achievements. First, limit access by ambitious heads in your build-up.
I say this because in the life of a businessperson there's a lot going on that if you're not the part won't understand and but wrongfully conclude on. As a driver I know how pressured one feel when are about to pass someone sans giving them a lift, yet going the same direction. What's painful is the conclusion made about me for not stopping and letting you jump in.
Ever thought of the route the person is going to take even though going there? Ever thought of the calls that he'll be making en route that doesn't need your ear? Ever thought of what she's carrying in her car that doesn't need your eye's attention? Fact is, there's a lot that goes on in the world of a businessperson that needs to be confidential, and you eavesdropping on them prematurely may jeopardize some of them because people talk too much.
Time and confidentiality are of essence in the lives of businesspersons. If I give you a lift and speed up to catch my appointment and you ask me to slow down, won't that make us feel each other negatively? Best I pass you and drive faster alone and comfortably. Some things just don't work if you try satisfying others for it's only you who'll lose in the end. A lot of us failed because of trying to do that, only to be told later how wanting we were to fail as we had a choice to not do the good we did for others that got us held back. The pressure of dealing with the pressure of failure so hefty especially when the pressure not self caused. Trust me, they don't care about your pressures after they pressured you to do for them, and that's the sad part.
Botho (humanity) is a curse and a blessing in one. Others will thank you and wish you well for it while on the other hand a weapon against you. This reminds me of a friend who borrowed his car to a younger fellow who lied to him about having a family crisis and needing a car to attend to it quickly. The lad returned the car claiming to rush somewhere for him to discover his mess alone. Later when he wanted to park it accordingly, the car didn't allow for him to reverse.
Calling him to find out, the guy said it wasn't him and that he knows nothing and passing the phone to his mother before he could even utter another word. He got told by the lad's mother how he brought it unto himself as he likes acting rich and now wanting her to fix his car by falsely accusing her son before hanging up. What's paining was learning that he went to a forex trading presentation to show off his newly acquired wheels to lure unsuspecting attendees. What happened with the gear links a cost that was left for him to pay for repairs alone, for practicing humanity.
People will always put pressure on you, don't bend for them if they have never proved they can be there for you or for anybody else. Risk with what you know is worth risking for. You can't help everyone, that's what I now can say after compromising myself and my all for nothing.
In conclusion: it's dangerous and alarming how slow good deeds are to punch above the surface than how quickly the bad deeds do. 'Never let another run your race, but never mind them in your marathon' [3]. Your obituary tells a story of your race and make only mentions of your marathon details here and there to show how less important it is, so make sure you're a participant in it, not a passenger of it. Do make your pressure count, but for a good cause. What's left to say is that helping is a risk not an investment, so, help with the thought of liability consequence in mind all the time...
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