[Bide your time]

With time mistakes are made, with time solutions are found, with time created opportunities lost or used, and with time we wait for what next is to come. The one thing that is common in all those times is you, the user of time. Now, with so much value put in time, what would you do to extract worth out of that value?

Time carries regret, hope, healing, and moments flooded with sharing, caring, willingness, and protection of others. It's a good thing trying to be there for the next, but trouble is being there for them is at a cost in that you're bound to help where assistance is sought, and what if you can't afford to? We at times risk with other people's resources and but for how long will it last? What one ought to do is offer their support in the form of advice, being there with, and not promise to give what they can't.

I know, for people who can't hold back it's tough to sit back and fold arms but the truth is at other times a necessity to avoid future cost on you emotionally, physically, financially and worse, reputationally so. You personally sure know of someone who lost because of their kind deeds. This shouldn't say that one should refrain from helping and rather see it as a reminder and a warning. It neither say you should start being selfish, even though a must in some instances.

Sometimes one falls into the deeper ends for others and end up suffering in the name of trying to help. Again, be mindful that some people are there for you and or including your family and not for your extended members, and you asking for their assistance on behalf of the other a damage on your relationship with them because maybe it's only you they afford to help, and not the other way round. Hustling your own help for the next isn't on as it translates to you passing your supposed cost for glory to someone totally unrelated to the situation.

In conclusion: await your time to afford helping others on your own accord. It's a grim picture seeing how kindhearted ones are being used by emotional blackmailers, don't fall for that, especially if you're to go out with a hand stretched out for that. It's good and fulfilling to help, but do it because you can before you want because of the position you find yourself in. Be cogitant for your own sake, for help goes with responsibility for undertaking to avail it, and roping others in that a sign of irresponsibility on your part.

Saying NO to a help seeker not a bad idea to justify, as it's for saving self and helping them too in that saying no to them the best possible thing you could ever do for their help. And piece of a friendly advice; take time to work hard at building self for yourself, to can then afford lending help to the nexts 'cause riding on others' backs for your help of other not so on. How long it takes to build self isn't an issue, what's important is to have timelines to add value into you. Whether you use it or spend it, is entirely up to you the life liver, so, bide your time...dp