[50 points into a person]

The gains into another a similar result as loss out of another. When you are with another person you need to constantly be working out what they mean to you, what they contribute to your growth, how you can get rid of them, and why you shouldn't be with them again.

Your formula of life is unlike any other's and your being is perfectly unlike any other's, so, know your self in order to find balance of your life. Now, 50 points into a person. It should be known though that to some it is 40 points or 30 points into a person, given where they are in life. The points are of 10 into each category of the person scored, with 5 of negative and 5 of positive. The 5 categories are in spouse, akin member, friend, business partner/colleague, and support member. To those not married or not in a romantic relationship, they gauge others in 4 categories, while for those not working and/or unmarried to focus in 3 categories.

It works in this way; when you are with another person, what are the 5 things that you find positive about them for you and which 5 things are to you negative about them? If the scale remains at 5/5 it's good for there's a balance, but if there's more in one side than in the other, then an imbalancement. An imbalancement can be good if it is found in more positives. A bad imbalancement is if it's more negatives. Weigh the negatives and see if there's a chance of them being able to be turned around and if not quit and move on. The same applies in all categories except with family as you can only distance yourself.

You should be doing one thing wherever you want to build something with anyone and that's constantly selling your dream, and whomever not matching up, to be cast aside. Our failure to exercise grey denomination formula has seen us left with many scars. But, you should also be receptive of their dreams and growth wishes. The elements of a healthy relationship are listening with understanding and giving back same energy, comfort of secrecy vaulting, and well wishing upon each other.

In conclusion: initially I was taught about only 4 categories and after looking into it I found it still wanting the support member category as it applies in my and others' lives. We have professionals that we built relationships with and we are to date with because we found balance in them, irrespective of the relationship being service driven and monetary based. The good thing about any relationship is knowing what you gain out of spending time in it, and what you gave in return. 50 points into a person then comes back to what you too fare in terms of score in them. Check your roles also in the lives of those you take space in as it's important for you to know...dp