[Grow your glory]

A lot of times 'a wrong decision in the eye of a critic is best to the thinking of a comrogue' [1]. What I tried to understand for a long time is the meaning behind this saying that "no comment is still a comment" and to date still not getting any substantiveness in it. But then, plainly, one does comment anyway 'cause it's a statement, albeit with no meaning. My point here that I'm putting forth is what one wants to achieve when making a decision to say or act out.

When you comment on an issue you are expected to convey a message of info on something to update or announce to the media or any party that's your audience. Putting out a message is a serious matter in that it's in a way a selling point for you to grow your glory through. Any platform of message conveyance should be treated with care as what you put out may come back to bite back at you in the future, so be responsible when giving out a statement as you're your own ambassador.

Of late, social media handles play a major role in vetting, whether you're a businessperson or employment seeker it's same, as such one needs to tread carefully as you never know what tomorrow brings. Also, how you decide is important, no matter what the issue or topic is. How you grow your glory goes with how you decide on your angle of tackling issues. People judge you on that and share with others what they conclude on you.

In conclusion: we live in a different time and we need to respect how we respond to that. The ways of connectedness gives off a lot too quick without us controlling any over what we do when in social spaces. It doesn't matter what you are and where you are, spectacles of gloom and glory are always watching, while ears are ever glued to the grounds for murmuring echoes of good and bad, ready to share before verification. The game of today is "who broke the news first?" and that also ravaged the quality of media. What still dominate the brain line is how one grow their glory. What for and how do you like to be known? It's up to you to draw your attention line...db

[1] by KgeleLeso

[Leave in power]

There's a difference between leaving and resting, you need to get your point across when you're intending to go. When you issue a statement it should highlight that, "your intent". Fact is, leaving in simpler terms means pulling out for good while resting meaning a pause to your course.

Saying goodbye not a simple thing to say and worse to recipient is how you say it in do before turning your back for good, leaving behind all and everything you got used to. But saying your last bye a sign of emotion, considered decision, growth and pressure from demanding better for your standard. At times you just feel it's your cue to withdraw from the scene that's suffocating you, as there's a lot to consider like one's freedom, time, feelings and opportunity.

It's usual for one to outgrow their environment and people around them. It sometimes be because of unresolved recurrent tendencies, fear of stagnation, and other related factors. When one takes a stance to leave you, it's hard, painful and disappointing, but it should be viewed as an opportunity for you on your side for a retake in your given back space usage, your reposition, your regain, and a chance to experience your feeling in that period. You learn from everything and that too a lesson for such an eventuality in future.

But then again, find that the person saying is leaving isn't actually meaning to, but just trying to send a message across. Doubt throwing technicality I suppose, though a move too risky to pull in some instances. And also, leaving should be clearly and explicitly communicated to avoid misinterpretation of it to taking a break from the movement. Be loyal to your intent and convey it in the best way it won't be a surprise to you for the reaction you get afterwards. Say and do what your mind tells you to, not test what others may do in return.

It's a sad situation to throw your toys into the play tray and have none ready to play with you. In so saying, never try what you won't be ready for. Say goodbye with assurance that you're certain of where you're going 'cause when you say it we respect it and do as expected; grant you a one direction passage to exit.

In conclusion: at the crossroads you either take a left or right, but one thing to note is that you take a left if you are in charge, and the right given to the one not in charge to choose between following you with a redress or go for good. And if choose to exercise your right to follow the one in charge for a redressal, meaning you'll have to be knowing whether you're to move forward together or be that you'll go back to the crossroads and do a retake, of which the final decision to rest with the one in charge unfortunately. So, take a left and leave in power only if you're in charge to avoid quixotic vexing of fortunes...

[Bide your time]

With time mistakes are made, with time solutions are found, with time created opportunities lost or used, and with time we wait for what next is to come. The one thing that is common in all those times is you, the user of time. Now, with so much value put in time, what would you do to extract worth out of that value?

Time carries regret, hope, healing, and moments flooded with sharing, caring, willingness, and protection of others. It's a good thing trying to be there for the next, but trouble is being there for them is at a cost in that you're bound to help where assistance is sought, and what if you can't afford to? We at times risk with other people's resources and but for how long will it last? What one ought to do is offer their support in the form of advice, being there with, and not promise to give what they can't.

I know, for people who can't hold back it's tough to sit back and fold arms but the truth is at other times a necessity to avoid future cost on you emotionally, physically, financially and worse, reputationally so. You personally sure know of someone who lost because of their kind deeds. This shouldn't say that one should refrain from helping and rather see it as a reminder and a warning. It neither say you should start being selfish, even though a must in some instances.

Sometimes one falls into the deeper ends for others and end up suffering in the name of trying to help. Again, be mindful that some people are there for you and or including your family and not for your extended members, and you asking for their assistance on behalf of the other a damage on your relationship with them because maybe it's only you they afford to help, and not the other way round. Hustling your own help for the next isn't on as it translates to you passing your supposed cost for glory to someone totally unrelated to the situation.

In conclusion: await your time to afford helping others on your own accord. It's a grim picture seeing how kindhearted ones are being used by emotional blackmailers, don't fall for that, especially if you're to go out with a hand stretched out for that. It's good and fulfilling to help, but do it because you can before you want because of the position you find yourself in. Be cogitant for your own sake, for help goes with responsibility for undertaking to avail it, and roping others in that a sign of irresponsibility on your part.

Saying NO to a help seeker not a bad idea to justify, as it's for saving self and helping them too in that saying no to them the best possible thing you could ever do for their help. And piece of a friendly advice; take time to work hard at building self for yourself, to can then afford lending help to the nexts 'cause riding on others' backs for your help of other not so on. How long it takes to build self isn't an issue, what's important is to have timelines to add value into you. Whether you use it or spend it, is entirely up to you the life liver, so, bide your time...dp

[Dissect your relations pulse]

Like possessions dear to one. Some relationships with some people are so valuable to you more than those people care to know at most sometimes. The time and care put on them a sure giveaway that sells you for what you see in them, have in them, and want to grow in them.

As you grow, with every year dusking an older number to the dawning of a new number in aging, you review the past year's plan for its execution or failure and its results if ever having had moved on it, and that's called retrospection. This alone will give you a clear picture of your path alone and your life with others.

What you are to self in comparison to others should highlight your direction with those you spent time around, and if it doesn't look the part to your plan, should know what next you are to do in stepping into the new phase. To be what you are to whom that isn't that to you is a waste of your capital resources, and have to enter into every new year in add to your number not only of age as just a natural course but rather an opportunity to start anew, to invite growth in your life, to practice what you are sans fear, and be that pride your purpose yearn in you for its shine. Lead the revolution of your evolution, you owe it not only to your self but also to those depending on your what you are.

The relationships between you and others are generally an ideal place to reflect on your presence in build up to your future, and that solely a start to your strategic revamp. Be careful of what your success says to you. What it means an extent of that which is of you from what is communicated by you in deeds mostly than it is orally, for it's a colourful real time statement we read you by always.

In conclusion: your enhancement of value is reduced or accelerated by you as its own curator. None will nurture your spirit, its hopes and dreams, and direction sans your active role in it. What others are to you should at all material times say back what you are and mean to them, and how you either respond or react totally in your power. The people who'll say out your worth in no words are those whom you help, trust and surround yourself with. Be sure to benchmark their draw backs with feedback from strangers to establish your true stance on them. The question left for you would then be; "am I the one in need of their circle or them in need of me in their circle?" Dissect the pulse of your relations with every being you chose to be near to, before your closeness to them, to elude leaping into another hole of self-deception...dp

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[Conditional trust]

Muted honesty, rival pretence and selective support, these are some of the critical aspects of conditional trust. It is painful, and those who are experiencing it or have had will tell you. Having someone trusting you conditionally is a big deal if you get to be doing things for or with, in that chances are they don't like you fully or at all, and using you to get ahead. This ain't preternatural but rather a behaviour that's common in many a relationship we find selves locked in.

I say "locked in" because some of us are bound by honour to our word and those electing to be conditionally trusting of us knowing they're protected by that. Being truthful to such a person is burdensome to say the least, and what they don't know is that we see right through them but just choosing to keep up with their ill wicked bible ways. The danger of that is its enabling nature to breed dislikes that leads to splits that are strengthened by failure to weed out the root cause.

The most discouraging factor in human relations is the outsider elements, they have influence on things afar from them yet be afforded audience on conclusions about things that they don't know the real causative narrative of. Such elements are good at pinning perceptions and, the distrustful ones by nature gets their ears wired to the grove of the spiralled diasporan hypocentre. Trouble is, 'once trust is mislaid, it riles amok like a yellow eyed mauve bull in endless bouts to out a rectahedral rink kraal' [1].

It's hurtful to discover that the person whom you trust doesn't trust you same. It at times result from what we did to trigger that distrust and but sometimes be purely out of one's precaution from own observation or be because of others. Many families, relationships, entities are broken on the back of that because after discovering the one you bet with doesn't bet with you, as they trust you less. Truth is, trust me conditionally and I cease mine on you, and being near you a choice left only to a serial tolerant few.

In conclusion: treat your mind in shake to this; 'epibole a sweet chorus to a sole that loves the sound of a broken record' [2], and if such type happens to be an epibiota to your system, a worse case dependency arrangement of kind. And but, what remains to dot in whole punch is undermark finer jots and tittles of their deeds, that's if you're interested in the makings of their peril sort to your being...dp

[1 & 2] by KgeleLeso

[Put your head in it]

'Where the head is at, the heart is overrated' [1]. When all that's to be done is not in the plan, then all shouldn't be done at all. The ability of the head to house the brain and the body needing the heart to stay alive is still one of the most powerful miracles to date if think about it. Just the potential found in the brain a phenomenon that's beyond comprehension and for the genius behind the heart's purported guise of its analogy, a marvel.

Idea conception, development, planning and strategizing, anything that requires you to think differently needs you to bring your mind to the table. Thinking differs to the reason behind, and with that follows the pattern, timing, situation, and target, to give the shape of that thinking. In all the thinking, its pressures and pleasures, what makes for a good outcome is the genre of your process. Do you think with emotions or with fact? Thus the saying; "don't think with your heart but your head". It goes with the thinking headgear you're wearing, it can't definitely be the cap all the time given the ordinare each unique of us as.

In tough times leaders and commanders need to use their heads more than they do with their hearts. Heart wired decision making is influenced by fragility, inclusivity, sentimentality, a softer approach to the subject of reception, and while with head wired decision making you find raw fact, agility, direct response, a harder approach to the subject of reception. Head wired decision makers aren't popular because of their angle of approach in that they don't read much into the first instance of the issue at hand as they rely on fundamentals at most than the popular other as they nurse emotions.

But, with time and fact, unpopulist approach though frowned upon is by far the most effective in leadership roles. The good thing about it is that it's in some way ambivalent in that a leader of that type does factor human element after applying their thought thus meaning they too are humancentric, just that being after their first instance thinking. Such, as leaders, are bold and progressive because they're guided by precedence over posed dynamics. Who the subject is to them is only after the truth and thus they aren't popular but necessary to any entity's growth and stability, unlike the popular latter who brings in empathy and sustainability.

In conclusion: 'A promise maker who forgets to promise, breaks no promise' [2]. This is what you get in some leaders. It's tough in that they may both deliver, but the results won't be same and as such may be binding on the other whilst not on another. Whether the promiser uses their head or heart, they both appeal to a specific group and that's their target. Fact becomes fiction where there lacks backup, same as truth with doubt. But in all honesty, you as the recipient ought to put your head in it when faced with both schools of thought...

[1&2] by KgeleLeso

[Better version of self]

When last were you to that place where everyone is shut out, where advice comes from unknown yet reliable sources, where light is deep, calming and assuring, a place where only you have access? Don’t look at me, ‘cause I’ve never been there myself of late but definitely been there afore plenty times.

Haa,,I see your eyes rolling. Worry not, don’t dwell much into it though. The point I’m rallying across is simply listening to one’s inner voice once in a while. Had I done so myself from time to time I’d be far ahead in life but no regrets whatsoever either, and but just saying it’s important for everyone to do so.

If our people can try listening to their inner voices, our countries would’ve gotten farther in better leaps of growth. Coming to think of it; how often does one search deeper within self before uttering what’s in their head or acting on what’s therein? I bet not often enough.

Where I’m leading with this is just that the world is a promising entity that needs good leaders to ensure its healthy growth for all the economies in it. But then, with the type of leaders we have at our disposal, where will we pick and choose those successors when what we see every day is a total mess up of the blank moral fibre canvas that the new generation should be painting wonders on.

Look around your neighbourhood and tell me how many drug addicts you have in your midst, criminals roaming the streets, school bunkers leading their ways to drop out stats count, promiscuity displays by our young wanton girls, and the list goes on. Out there our youth are getting wasted on a daily basis. What pains me the most is the fact that not much is done to minimise the damage.

The challenges we are faced with wouldn’t have been this bad had we as communities, starting from our homes, had a parent or sibling taught us about listening first to that inner voice within ourselves before doing whatever we do with our precious lives.

Many good lives are ruined in the very space we call our place of comfort, which is at home. How many families do still eat together at the same time and sat on the same table; not many I tell you, and this a major disaster that should be stopped in practice as we miss out on each member’s development as a being.

We get wrong messages from mass media especially from social media. Youth of today ask advice from strangers they call friends just merely by having had them befriended by a click of acceptance of a friendship request. Growing up with that, what kind of relationship will the young one of today be a good leader of tomorrow who manages direct relations with people of all ages and backgrounds if they failed to have that from their own upbringing? Your guess is as good as mine.  

What I’d like to encourage is for each of us to have some bit of time spared for reflection on their day’s deeds and decisions, where to amend and what to do in future should such an occurrence episode repeat itself again. That’s not about being traditional, religious or otherwise, but just a connection with your inner being.

In conclusion: emotional intelligence, social intelligence, spiritual intelligence and adaptability quotience are the new found features in today’s master learning of self that but are treasures that’ve been there since creation of humankind. What we just need is the freedom of honing them with unreserved wisdom. Five minutes in that corner every day an investment on your best kept asset, and that is yourself. Cease never on building a better version of self for you being the first in self the best thing to happen to the next...dp