[Conditional trust]

Muted honesty, rival pretence and selective support, these are some of the critical aspects of conditional trust. It is painful, and those who are experiencing it or have had will tell you. Having someone trusting you conditionally is a big deal if you get to be doing things for or with, in that chances are they don't like you fully or at all, and using you to get ahead. This ain't preternatural but rather a behaviour that's common in many a relationship we find selves locked in.

I say "locked in" because some of us are bound by honour to our word and those electing to be conditionally trusting of us knowing they're protected by that. Being truthful to such a person is burdensome to say the least, and what they don't know is that we see right through them but just choosing to keep up with their ill wicked bible ways. The danger of that is its enabling nature to breed dislikes that leads to splits that are strengthened by failure to weed out the root cause.

The most discouraging factor in human relations is the outsider elements, they have influence on things afar from them yet be afforded audience on conclusions about things that they don't know the real causative narrative of. Such elements are good at pinning perceptions and, the distrustful ones by nature gets their ears wired to the grove of the spiralled diasporan hypocentre. Trouble is, 'once trust is mislaid, it riles amok like a yellow eyed mauve bull in endless bouts to out a rectahedral rink kraal' [1].

It's hurtful to discover that the person whom you trust doesn't trust you same. It at times result from what we did to trigger that distrust and but sometimes be purely out of one's precaution from own observation or be because of others. Many families, relationships, entities are broken on the back of that because after discovering the one you bet with doesn't bet with you, as they trust you less. Truth is, trust me conditionally and I cease mine on you, and being near you a choice left only to a serial tolerant few.

In conclusion: treat your mind in shake to this; 'epibole a sweet chorus to a sole that loves the sound of a broken record' [2], and if such type happens to be an epibiota to your system, a worse case dependency arrangement of kind. And but, what remains to dot in whole punch is undermark finer jots and tittles of their deeds, that's if you're interested in the makings of their peril sort to your being...dp

[1 & 2] by KgeleLeso

[Put your head in it]

'Where the head is at, the heart is overrated' [1]. When all that's to be done is not in the plan, then all shouldn't be done at all. The ability of the head to house the brain and the body needing the heart to stay alive is still one of the most powerful miracles to date if think about it. Just the potential found in the brain a phenomenon that's beyond comprehension and for the genius behind the heart's purported guise of its analogy, a marvel.

Idea conception, development, planning and strategizing, anything that requires you to think differently needs you to bring your mind to the table. Thinking differs to the reason behind, and with that follows the pattern, timing, situation, and target, to give the shape of that thinking. In all the thinking, its pressures and pleasures, what makes for a good outcome is the genre of your process. Do you think with emotions or with fact? Thus the saying; "don't think with your heart but your head". It goes with the thinking headgear you're wearing, it can't definitely be the cap all the time given the ordinare each unique of us as.

In tough times leaders and commanders need to use their heads more than they do with their hearts. Heart wired decision making is influenced by fragility, inclusivity, sentimentality, a softer approach to the subject of reception, and while with head wired decision making you find raw fact, agility, direct response, a harder approach to the subject of reception. Head wired decision makers aren't popular because of their angle of approach in that they don't read much into the first instance of the issue at hand as they rely on fundamentals at most than the popular other as they nurse emotions.

But, with time and fact, unpopulist approach though frowned upon is by far the most effective in leadership roles. The good thing about it is that it's in some way ambivalent in that a leader of that type does factor human element after applying their thought thus meaning they too are humancentric, just that being after their first instance thinking. Such, as leaders, are bold and progressive because they're guided by precedence over posed dynamics. Who the subject is to them is only after the truth and thus they aren't popular but necessary to any entity's growth and stability, unlike the popular latter who brings in empathy and sustainability.

In conclusion: 'A promise maker who forgets to promise, breaks no promise' [2]. This is what you get in some leaders. It's tough in that they may both deliver, but the results won't be same and as such may be binding on the other whilst not on another. Whether the promiser uses their head or heart, they both appeal to a specific group and that's their target. Fact becomes fiction where there lacks backup, same as truth with doubt. But in all honesty, you as the recipient ought to put your head in it when faced with both schools of thought...

[1&2] by KgeleLeso

[Better version of self]

When last were you to that place where everyone is shut out, where advice comes from unknown yet reliable sources, where light is deep, calming and assuring, a place where only you have access? Don’t look at me, ‘cause I’ve never been there myself of late but definitely been there afore plenty times.

Haa,,I see your eyes rolling. Worry not, don’t dwell much into it though. The point I’m rallying across is simply listening to one’s inner voice once in a while. Had I done so myself from time to time I’d be far ahead in life but no regrets whatsoever either, and but just saying it’s important for everyone to do so.

If our people can try listening to their inner voices, our countries would’ve gotten farther in better leaps of growth. Coming to think of it; how often does one search deeper within self before uttering what’s in their head or acting on what’s therein? I bet not often enough.

Where I’m leading with this is just that the world is a promising entity that needs good leaders to ensure its healthy growth for all the economies in it. But then, with the type of leaders we have at our disposal, where will we pick and choose those successors when what we see every day is a total mess up of the blank moral fibre canvas that the new generation should be painting wonders on.

Look around your neighbourhood and tell me how many drug addicts you have in your midst, criminals roaming the streets, school bunkers leading their ways to drop out stats count, promiscuity displays by our young wanton girls, and the list goes on. Out there our youth are getting wasted on a daily basis. What pains me the most is the fact that not much is done to minimise the damage.

The challenges we are faced with wouldn’t have been this bad had we as communities, starting from our homes, had a parent or sibling taught us about listening first to that inner voice within ourselves before doing whatever we do with our precious lives.

Many good lives are ruined in the very space we call our place of comfort, which is at home. How many families do still eat together at the same time and sat on the same table; not many I tell you, and this a major disaster that should be stopped in practice as we miss out on each member’s development as a being.

We get wrong messages from mass media especially from social media. Youth of today ask advice from strangers they call friends just merely by having had them befriended by a click of acceptance of a friendship request. Growing up with that, what kind of relationship will the young one of today be a good leader of tomorrow who manages direct relations with people of all ages and backgrounds if they failed to have that from their own upbringing? Your guess is as good as mine.  

What I’d like to encourage is for each of us to have some bit of time spared for reflection on their day’s deeds and decisions, where to amend and what to do in future should such an occurrence episode repeat itself again. That’s not about being traditional, religious or otherwise, but just a connection with your inner being.

In conclusion: emotional intelligence, social intelligence, spiritual intelligence and adaptability quotience are the new found features in today’s master learning of self that but are treasures that’ve been there since creation of humankind. What we just need is the freedom of honing them with unreserved wisdom. Five minutes in that corner every day an investment on your best kept asset, and that is yourself. Cease never on building a better version of self for you being the first in self the best thing to happen to the next...dp

[Avoid commercial speculators]

Living your life in its primetime a one testing period you could ever go through. Truth is that in that space the spike of harsh realities thrash you every corner of your trial, leaving you with no choice but to commit errors. A favour you can do for oneself is to cease grasping at theoretic ideologies and stick to one thing that lodges practical sense to your thought processing catchment. Don't break your enlightened spirit with foreign goals to your vision.

Only you know what you want and how to get it, and should feign vague intentions to throw detractors off-balance. There comes a point in everyone's life where you do what suits your make, a time when none except vision carriers apply the logic you project, an era with which a definitive carving of your true essence is out in shape of your dream to live. As you traverse in your enfilade vistas, the only main fielder to reroute your trench commerce fare should be the shift to your end goal for there'll be attractions designed to stay you off mission.

Be in constant check of your consultory, that's the inition of misfirings. Where you go to consult a make or break of your dream. Sometimes we get hypnotized by the glam charm of commercial speculators and fall into dips of misery. A visionary fronts their vision and entrust it to conceptualists in full acknowledged mise-en-abyme risk. As such, be choosy of your commissioned vision executors. Work with people who are fellow thinkers to your dream to support the vision, not theorists with non-practical solutions to the challenges your vision present.

In conclusion: 'it takes a vesselful vision carrier to afford an enceinte vision bearer the ability to put their imaginary entity into a space of reality spectacle' [1]. In future when you set out to launch your vision into the new world (out of your head), ensure it's not into the hands of an incapable commercial speculator, avoid such...dp

[1] by KgeleLeso

[Too real to be true]

Ever been in a space where you are told that you are not the person you claim to be? Ask me, I know that and its feeling, and frankly it happens to some achievers not so like me. As for me, it’s a case of having to show proof first and but still be doubted.

I want to say something that I know a lot will never beg to differ with me but rather argue the view I have on the subject matter. What I would like to point out though might seem to be out of topic which is the fact that I being a Gemini has a lot to do with my thinking differed from an average somebody. Those born under this zodiac sign possess high levels of creative thinking, writing and speaking. The Geminis’ are natural communicators.

Back to the topic at hand; it’s baffling to be told that you are not who you are. The issue is many a times people fail to separate the who you are from the what you are. For argument sake, one may be an inventor of something phenomenal as a qualified developer or technician, that’s the what part of their being that is done via their academic capabilities, and then next be that ordinary chap you meet on the queue at the supermarket. When somebody asks them whether they know the inventor of that product and be telling them they do know the person and that they have in fact met that person it be a case that they don't believe it. Worse will be when they blurt it out that they're the person behind the name. The trouble starts when you are mated to the what you are as the person may at most be surprised at that in that you don’t fit the good that you do as what you are versus as who you are.

A lot of people tend to build personas of us in their minds only to be disturbed by the truth that comes as a shock to them once introduced to the real person. Thing is, the persona always is a bigger and better thought of being and not the simple person presented to them.

It’s laughable the things we see in people’s reactions to knowing us at times. How they behave a killer all the time. One’s body frame, ethnicity, upbringing story, together with other man’s defining features do not conclude a thing about a person, and best we just remain open minded about people as they are sans building personas in our heads. Once that gets out of the way people will learn to respect and appreciate one another beyond any negativity attached, and start to judge people and their things on merit.

In conclusion: any person whether on high, mid or low profile ought to be seen as a person like you. What may differentiate us may be our levels of achievements but that doesn’t say we are deities. See my humanness raw as I am same as you and you’ll be able to engage with me, them and others who achieved better than you. Give me the very eye you did before put in the know of my profile asame after that. Chances are that I might be better an achiever to you but be of lesser to another, and to me there're those whom I do give my respect and appreciation for what they have achieved sans comparing myself to them. Do same, compare never yourself with others but benchmark through them, and if it happens to be me you're benchmarking with, don't treat me as if I'm too real to be me should we ever get to engage. Treat me like the human I am and I'll too act same in return treating you as human, for it's a career that happens to be putting me in the spotlight and nothing more to it...dp

[The approval burden]

Time flies when you're having fun, and so it does when you seek approval. Nothing is as painful as seeking approval from someone who doesn't give a damn about you and your efforts. This happens a lot when you're in business. Businesspeople seek approval from anyone they deem a target audience, or a prospective partner, or potential stakeholder, and that a stressful situation to find selves in.

Being a beggar is hard and many in business do that all day everyday without realizing it. When you seek approval, you literally are begging from whomever that it is you're casting your net upon. It's hard in that position we all know. It's but better when you're targeting someone who has been there before and appreciative of your efforts as it makes it easier a bit.

There's something discouraging about approval at times and that is meeting the requirements at their maximum, yet be not given favourable acceptance. Approval ain't automatic, it depends on the approver all the time and that's what's unfair about it. After that, then comes the danger of going after everyone's concurrence. Doing that has never lit any candle to its finish though, a classic example is that of the lesson of an old man and his donkey. A blanket approach in approval not achievable, hence you need your own bin size to put your lid on with ease. Even if it's 17 out of 100 in a group it's still fine, the golden gate leads to the highway bridge and however you cruise to it, what matters is the gain point which is the end goal.

Approval needs discipline, know where to start and where to stop. Weigh your prospects first before committal. True thing about seeking approval is that if it be on the same thing over a long time it becomes a bore to point out its justification as it makes one look weak. I stand corrected on the fact that when you seek approval, do so still in check of your dignity, otherwise you'll be disrespected.

In conclusion: whether you're rich or poor, seeking approval touches you. Be it in family and friends or business or society, how they respond to your sought desire a result of their own that you need to respect and live with in that it won't be of favour to you always. Approval is a house divider, be careful to accept that. And do remember that as much as it's hard for you to impress the party of interest, same is the burden on the party of interest to give approval for you...dp

[The spice to any common relationship]

What are your relationships based on? Are they based on family and general life matters, or money making plans, or auld lang syne, on marital problems or on what? I hear a lot of guys I meet of late are basing their relationships on money and connection opportunities only, but is it what life is only about, money?

Growing up means more responsibilities we all know but not all responsibilities are financially demanding. We miss the good things life offers because of being rewired to worship of money. Even if we can talk about money, there're still some pointers to touch on that aren't money related like health, family relations, best malted quaff, and other acquired tastes, to keep the relationship interesting and sustainable.

Befriending someone has to be on the back of something but it just can't be on one aspect of life, unless you're business partners who meet occasionally or a relationship of that sort. Question is, what's your small talk or ice breakers about, it's just impossible. Let's advice one another on what's sounding and good for growth not on statements that in future we'll be arguing about context to content as doing so counterintuitive. Say what's practical and doable to build me not destroy me.

In conclusion: tell me rather that let's have our relationship based on progress in all fronts of life, for that says to me that we'll share skills, life lessons and money making plans. The spice for any relationship is variety and spontaneity, so is with common relationships because you just can't sustain a single subjected relationship as it becomes stale in the long run. If you don't want us to go down that lane, best you cut me and I'll be still fine with it 'cause Malachi's day will soon reach your vicinity...dp