"Despise the free lunch if you want to retain your independence" [1], Robert Greene said. Being an untouchable one is pricier than thought, and none’ll tell you that. Sadly, what I’ve learned is that lessons you receive in life aren’t premeditated for you, but needing you to be ever ready for another lesson after the one you’ve just had all the time. Boitumelo Madisha said that "we’re in class all the time in life, and we live in write of our daily rights and wrongs" [2]. And, in addition to that I say: ‘Life’s rights are wrongs of wrongs learned to be unwronged’ [3].
We all started from zero and did things that left us up or down, but all being results of us having done something, of which matters more than having done nothing at all. It’s better being named something somewhere; a somebody who failed or made it, than a nobody nowhere. But then, comes a point where you get to be somewhere in life where you get offered nice things. What you should always ask self is what do they want of you, how big the want is, whom it benefits, and where it’ll leave you? There’re things that if not question their motive for their end result, will leave you with a scathed end goal. Your independence is mightier and attractive to a lot of opportunists to derail it, so, stay firm.
Should you master your heart and mind, know that your life’s just begun. Knowing your purpose in each space you find self occupying is important for your growth and certainty. It helps in letting you pick where to invest most of your time at. Again, who’s at loss for your time in your availability? Go where you’re needed sans staying too long to the point of free lunch, and where it is advanced, to make sure you contribute somehow so you leave being level with the host. It is funny I know but it’s key in weighing your scale on future return favours and other related burdens.
Be fearful of anything nice and freely given because when someone offer something nice for free, chances are they expect something in return as some are genuine gifts with no strings attached whilst some are nothing but pure hooks to capture you by. Hooks come in many ways like free info about something valuable to you, free cost service to you, free access to someone or something, etc, that results in you receiving special treatment or favour over others. So, if you can guard against such you’ll leave a happy life. Free niceties are a daily thing for those in high places that are but not giving them joy they expected out of them. Next time someone advances a free nicety you need to probe for their reason and intent thereof before your decision otherwise you’ll regret it later. Asking before acceptance gives you a chance at opting in or out. In the real world nothing is ever free, best they be reminded lest they forgot. Know always, your independence rely on that answer from them and in how you respond to it. Accept anything that is of meaningful boost to your life for such carries value of direct impact.
In conclusion: it doesn’t matter how and who the giver is, be sure to give back sooner or later, unless it be a return of favour to you. Put yourself in the position of leverage all the time, make others owe you favours in return rather. Be generous and you’ll have a powered life...dp
[2] by Boitumelo Madisha
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