[Being the boss]

Yaah,,,that feeling, nobody can say no to it in secret yet publicly saying no to it. What people tend to forget is the fact that we are naturally by default bosses all of us and just that we don’t all get the chance to be in the commanding chair, but everyone is first their own boss before anyone bosses them. Being a boss isn’t same as being a leader unfortunately though. Being a boss is easier than being a leader though tough in that it’s the quicker route to losing favour and people.

The reason a lot of you denies publicly your desire to be the boss is that the responsibility that comes with the role doesn’t suit just about anyone and also because of that a lot of you fear to be scrutinized. Being a boss entails you being wanting, endlessly commanding, unfazed by criticism, heavily loaded with guts and taking no for an answer, and as we all know not everyone can pull that off as we ain’t the same.

Most of the boss attitude comes out when the wrong sole is given the wrong role. This goes to show  how much not everyone can boss successfully in spite of being the boss. Truth is, if be taken for a parade to a focus group, a lot won’t come out as good bosses. Being a boss doesn’t go along with shyness, humbleness, tolerance, rationality and friendliness, as such shouldn’t you. It’s a tough act to keep the mixed repertoire of being the centre of attention, the forceful go-getter, mean faced and ever blame shifting, and results driven.

In conclusion: how does it feel being the boss vs how does it feel being you? What makes one be the boss? The bottom-line is the uneasiness you make others feel whenever you’re around and but not how it should be. A boss should be forcefully respected, listened to, served under, and feared. And now, given the courtesy a boss should be afforded, do you still want to be it?

One may argue that ‘boss’ is just a title that has nothing to do with one’s state of mind, status and behaviour, but I will always see it differently. Boss as a position has an effect on one, make you stand out and matter, change your count of fortunes, and make you a statistic that only you will make it shine or rust...dp