[Uncomfortable truths to cost in life]

With authority becoming a complex sentiment de fur of late, what you want to do gets weighed against what you have to do and for whom. Defying the odds of one's own life plan is a suicidal move that separates being successful from being achieved. How the game is set, leaving you with the decision to either being the game changer, game planner or the rule maker, in order to own the player, their opponent and the spectator. Trouble is, should you allow self the missed opportunity of partaking, a consensual affirmation of your reduction as a game board.

What you miss in the control hierarchy, however you look at it, is that the new normal is no longer in pairs of binomials only but rather by trinomials too. That which was formerly called a third wheel is now a permanent fixture in the equation. It's now white, black or a bit of both/off colour. Recognize that, else you're tossed out. If you look at life with cost attached to it, know that your path is on a shape up.

Whistling behind is a loud screaming by this other fact that wants you to know about, and that's being that in life the most interestingly important numbers are one, three and seven. As a human being you are the trinity (me, myself and I) that is faced with a trilemma (ie. living as a single, married or divorced person who's heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual in your friends and family front, career front or public front) everyday of the seven days of the week that gives you a full circle, thus translating to 52 of those full circles which makes a year. What this means is that every seven days you come full circle, which says you have a new start in that cycle via start of every week. Now, think of the cost of all your lost opportunities in all those 52 full circles you have until your next birthday celebration. How many weeks in your year are you being productive and those you're not? It's alarming to be honest.

With us all fighting for control of self and of others, you need to establish your stance in the control hierarchy, which is authority, influence and power. You are given power by virtue of birth, it takes none other than YOU self to strip self off that power. Power is when you rule, influence is when you control, and authority is when you manage. A lot are at the point of self given authority and are mistaking it for power 'cause they've got freedom of speech to utter power, freedom of movement to be wherever they want to show off their supposed power, freedom of thought to think they've got power, and the freedom to still want more. Power comes at a cost, over time and with experience, and with self-authority you get to learn that something comes after nothing and that for then as someone you matter only to yourself and to matter to others when you're somebody. So, as self-authorized you are someone and with power are somebody.

Failure to get your stance right, a cost to you. Cost results from many factors in one's life like your attitude, decisions, ignorance, family background, choice of association, who/what you are, lifestyle orientation, and many other situational aspects. What this mean is that there's cost to any and everything in life. You need to be in touch with your consciousness full time to understand what it's all about. From how you act to whom you act as, etc, it all matters. It's about how you calculate loss and gain, where life has placed you, who is in charge of your mercy, and how good you are at reversing your miscalculations all the time. It's about loss to your value in terms of your brand's worth, personally or corporately.

In conclusion: in business, failure to calculate your cost the first costly mistake that carries a hefty regret called downfall, but then again, apart from that, cost is found in everything, be it an opportunity, luck, time or you. Cost of opportunity ranks top in that every single success story a result of it, luck follows in how you create your own in any situation you're planted in, then to time which entail your age, processes and sequencing (ie. prioritization), and lastly you. With you it's clear as daytime running lights; when people meet you for the first time, which side of you do they encounter? Is it character or personality, and how much of you resides in each? As you, are for loyalty or for honesty? Truth is, by simply being yourself can cost you dearly.

If you're enlightened enough you'll analyze and start working at self. Pity all answers lie in there within you as all depends on your school of thought. Cost isn't the measure to success or failure, but a point of view I believe summons your attention. What you do after being awakened to this bit I shared with you, entirely up to you what you make of it in your mark up...dp

[Growth for purpose]

After a session with my manager earlier today I got to ask myself the very questions we had. We talked about an empty delivery box that was placed on a stool after being emptied its contents, he compared it to us but with me being his arsenal target. He asked me if I were an empty box, would I be repurposed or discarded after serving my purpose? Where would I be placed if be reused, in the open for people to see me or hidden? What size and type of box would I be? If found useful, would I be reusable or recycled. It made me think different of my behavior, growth and purpose.

We later took a turn to his other point in connection to that talk. He also asked me how do I spot a businessperson over the rest? He told me more often than not, you'll fail to pinpoint with accuracy a businessperson. How do a businessperson look like, sound like and feel like when in your space? Asked me to work on self to know all the answers to his questions as it's important for my growth.

As a people we are and do different but success for purpose wants same of us, while growth on the other hand demanding many from us instead. His parting question; "How do you source the brilliance in you for the brilliance of others?" in that as a person in business you lead and be led. Our talk left me in a state of questioning my quality, direction and his thoughts of me. Clearly I am not doing fine. But then, where do I start after everything he said?

Trying to recall from the top when we met today what triggered it all, remembered it was about being trustworthy and reliable, that it's of no use if you can be trusted but not be there always when needed. That, one may not be trusted but be there always. And if running an ongoing concern like a business you need those you can rely on more than be trusted at times. Said he but wants both from me, someone trusted whom he can rely on for both our growths for the purpose of our working relationship. As such, an empty box should be same; be available, be strong enough for its load, serve its purpose for both its growth in importance to the user and for growth of its user from getting reliability out of its dependability.

In conclusion: a hungry man isn't always an angry man, but rather someone who deserves a chance at being heard. As an empty box will I be heard when choosing the contents I'd love to carry? To him, as my manager, is he the right box purposed to contain my growth? To me, am I the empty box he wanted or that which he's got no choice but just do with? Is my capacity bringing out brilliance in him? It put me in a space of uncertainty yet rooted in surety that he's there for me and hoping I be there for him too at most of times if not always.

On the businessperson question still got me doubting my accuracy. Truth is, with a lot of them it's a case of self betrayal of portrayal. It got me asking myself how does empty success feel like? It showed me that a lot of businesspersons are of the view that they are successful but in truest sense not. And with me, I may not look like a businessperson but I'll work hard to ensure that I make people experience my presence, and push for success no matter the circumstances 'cause I built myself this far to live in serve of my existent purpose, and grow myself for others...dp

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[Consequence of hope]

We all give it and receive it from others and things. Hope knows no status, race, territory, name, etc, as it's a neutral noun that is important for anyone's spirit in down times and during moments of wander. Hope doesn't matter what size the wish is for, it boosts the feeling of possibility and ignite positive vibes.

When you give it out it carries a promise that delivery will be realized at the end of your projected result of the collective desire. What should be clearly expressed in it though is the role players, timeline, challenges and process buy-in. Hope is a phenomenon that requires responsibility, sensitivity, accessibility, certainty and fulfillment. The danger with it is its ability to break or make a person as because of it one plan around it, risk for it, lie with it, and or anything that may hurt the other if not materialized. Think of what may happen if their hope deferred indefinitely. Remember, knowledge isn't wisdom, but both will teach you respect for others' feelings of disappointment.

Hope seeks the voice of reason, the bold type, the impact communicator, the shift pacer, the word keeper, and the humane material, as it's about the transporting of despaired and broken soles to a trusted and motivated space of belief in their fragile selves, the course and you, before getting to the point of experienced results in the end.

In conclusion: hope unfortunately has some consequences attached to it no matter the circumstance. Giving it sans surety a pure deception. The good intentions that paddled it no longer apply should it be that the promise maker doesn't break through. Again, integrity and reputational damage may be suffered in the process, so, don't be shy to come clean should it be that the promise is not as thought out. To avoid any mishaps, be honest to self about the affordability on your side of the end goal to promise. It's simple, be safe, and the best way to stay safe is sizing the hope to your ability success. If you find that you won't afford its undesirable outcome, steering clear of it the best decision for it's out of your jurisdiction...dp

[Maybe you know]

Push hard or try hard. Unsettling honestly about what you're going through is nothing worth achieving any peace and happiness that freedom can't find anywhere else sans exposing your soul to choice of reality vs fiction.

Nothing is as rewarding as transparency with who and what you are, and the same could be said about asking for love back or forgiveness, if you're genuinely sorry about your wrong you'll find no fault in you showing it. Telling yourself that you are wrong and admitting to it is the first major break, and saying it to the next a step towards your reclaiming of self.

The confusing rigmarole of true lies and false lies an entangling discomfort. We all got that but behaving as if we're doing better. Everybody has a situation in their lives that they want none to know about and that's the deepest root of ill in that for some secrets one could kill to conceal their reveal. The veil of secrecy a shame to cover up but a robe of honour if you go down alone should it hit the discovery lane.

In business and church there're codes that govern relations within their fraternities. For you wanting support and unwavering commitment to your success will require you to affiliate into the program. How in this age we see the use of the bible and religion to advance human nature and its supposed freedom a worrying trend. All the bads happening are versely cited somewhere in the bible to reel people in. Today our ark is the vaccine and the flood is the pandemic, and the revelation of our era is the new world order.

Just ask any random business graduate or businessperson to explain to you how publishing can build their business and suffocate it, they won't say anything real to that. How psychology, public relations, law and religion gets used in all spheres of our lives a display of disregard for those not in the know. The education we pay for a tool that is owned by the elite to condition us.

For interest sake, ask yourself which book is the most sold and still to sell sans any direct marketing ever paid for? Who actually wrote it? Who gave the rights to its publishing? Lastly, who is collecting its sales as its owner? If your answer to the first question is correct, what about the other questions? Again, this very book brought us the first world order and prevailed since, and now ushering us into the third world order.

In conclusion: no amount of training can tweak one's failing common sense. Truth is uncomfortable and same goes for a lie, and but each can't exist sans the other. Questions are a waste to your curiosity if there aren't any answers forthcoming. With this saying meaning that I'm defeated by the vacuum of silence from the truth concealers, and passing the baton to you...dp

[Working with the wrong TEAM]

The first question to mate with this heading is: what would you do if you were to realize that you're working with the wrong TEAM? What to do with the weakest link? Nothing is as painful as finding self in a situation where you have to constantly remind people why they're there with you and doing whatever it is that you're doing together in an organization.

Nothing demoralizes more than a team that does not work on what it's supposed to be doing, and be doing what they please to do. As a leader of such a collective, what are you to do? If your team isn't performing as per your mandate, you need to understand the dynamics of your space in the market with relation to their skills set, their hopes and dreams, their individual backgrounds, their sole personality and character, their product knowledge, their understanding of the brand and vision, and their support for one another.

After that, you'll have to interrogate your style of leadership, your method of recruitment, your mode of operation, the business model, and your relation to them both individually and collectively. A lot goes into making a team succeed and in some cases what leads the pack being how you make business against how you get business.

Together Each Achieve More, that's the mantra any leader should instill in their respective fields and organizations. One expert once said that there's no such thing as a wrong team in her vocab. She said a leader of an organization should know what kind of personality traits would be suitable for their objective and organizational culture for their entity. But that made sense to some extent, leaving vacuum for the leader who has no luxury of building a team from scratch. When you inherit a team it'll be thrice as hard directing that team to prospection.

In police force you are dead certain that if you're to get your desired result as a leader, the most effective solution is suspend the investigating officer and in their own time out of proving their mettle will solve the case in a timely manner even with limited resources. Though yielded good results, it says a lot about the stress the leader had until ending up resorting to such an angle, and that works only if you're having someone who is a fighter not a self victimizing quitter. But then, if it's in the corporate space a different story.

One good thing though that is a positive about a wrong team is that if given enough support and time with the correct tools they can turn out better. What a team as such needs is someone that'll guide it to where they're supposed to be, and but one certain is they can be best if put their energies on working at it.  

In conclusion: leadership is meant to be a circumquint experience that anyone in lead should feel, but if it is the opposite a sombre and exhaustive affair. And when faced with the wrong group you call a team, having to just be honest to self how much you're to lose should you force to keep it 'cause all it takes is correcting the wrong you've done, though should be sure where the mistake is.

If you're a visionary you need other vision bearers not revolutionaries to realize your dream materialization. Having such in the middle a risk to your success given the approach to execution. The bottom line is it's hard working with the wrong TEAM and what you choose to do with them left entirely to you in lead...dp 

[Cut the bad roots]

Any plant is a beautiful creation. What should also be mentioned is the soil that holds the plant and the roots that runs wide and deep to keep the plant firmly grounded and nourished. When we talk of a plant, we never care to put both the soil and the roots in the very same sentence because they aren’t important to some as at most never even thought about. The same could be said about working relationships.

In business, generally the public looks at the plant as the star attraction, and that translating to them overlooking the operators (soil) and workforce (roots). Nobody ever cares about the soil and roots because they never scream for attention, hence if they do, gets dealt with immediately. How you deal with bad soil is tilling it and with roots you simply cut them. This applies too in business front and personal front, and one of those ways is being separated from them.

Separation is a touchy subject almost all the time and but a necessary move at times. When a group disbands it is never pleasant, and but better as you’ll have others to lean on, while with a split between two individuals a harder affair. If you feel that someone is no longer serving your life interests in good faith or causing you disrepute, best you discard them before they cause you further damage.

The act of cutting someone out of your life is not a wrong thing as long it’s stemming from reasonable and justifiable circumstances. Some people are just not ready to align themselves with the set rules and terms of governance and, that a test to those in lead. Whether it’s a partner or staffer, cutting out a negative energy element a must if you’re to restore positivity and realize productivity. Never forget to think about you first when dealing with uprooting the bad element as they don’t think for you when they wrong you. But, be diligent when executing such a move in that you need to be sure it was not a mistake what they committed in the process to avoid retracement on your part. Thing is, any permanent move should be a faultless implementation.

In conclusion: closure after pain is necessary for your healing and, if the root cause doesn’t go away so will the lingering agony hover longer; so, deal with the source of your pain to its finish. It’s also important to be specific on what you’re protecting self from in the process and also what you’re protecting for yourself. Is it from shame, or from danger, or from loss, etc, or is it for power, or for respect, or for career, etc, as it should be clear before ridding the element off. The challenge with cutting ties is that some roots are hard to die, they keep growing long after the cut-off, and should you allow them to continue growing with you attached to them a dire consequence for your personal brand. The key take away here is that you should never associate your brand with some people or entities once you cut ties with them. To cement your stance you must publicly state that and keep your distance ever visible between you and them as being on the fence not going to do you any good at the end. Simply put, treat them as cut stories that are worth nothing more than just unusable material to discard...dp

[Foolproofed user-friendly]

'Who said "in simplified terms" isn't the new fool-proofed user-friendly?'[1]. It's up to you how you decode a message they deem hard to comprehend to the level of an average person's understanding. Whenever you hear a person mention "in simpler terms" or "in lay man's term basis" or the likes, chances are they feel you're below their level and trying to tone down to accommodate that lower level of yours or vice versa.

So then, if someone does go to your assumed level of your understanding, how does it feel and what to do to show your level or standard without offending them back? In many a manual the directions for use are in a language that even a primary school going child can understand. What this says is that it's important to simplify your communication by conveying information that is easy to grasp.

Today we live in a world where simplicity isn't the opposite of complexity but rather spoon feeding. Everybody wants to be given everything on a silver platter. Availability of information via a myriad of today's platforms and channels makes it easier to churn out information as long as it's easy to eye and ear. But then again, to what extent should things be simpler?

The danger of too much spoon feeding is that most of vital information about many subjects gets left out for the sake of sounding and appearing simple. Again, this robs people the process of learning as they know they can always find anything they want to know online at any given time. This is done in the name of accessibility of information. What must be passed to the public should be that the easy pick information they receive is a glimpse guide of what is left for them to seek further knowledge of.

The other danger of that is also the throttling of culture of learning. This doesn't say I'm opposed to anything made simple, but just not happy with how it shapes the thinking and behavior of our society. In order for society to grow, naturally they must be challenged and not be put in the comfort zone all the time. The norm should be to go out and seek help and knowledge, thus they be empowered.

One positive benefit of simplified communication is clear and effective message conveyance. With end-user experience it makes sense and making life easier when using appliances, devices and all other products. Anything you use needs to be simple to understand in order for it to be practical. 

In conclusion: foolproof doesn't mean you don't have to be witty to be a user, but rather very easy to use, hence user-friendly. The only thing to be aggressively against is the notion that everything has to then be easy. We need to understand that easy to understand doesn't build quick thinking. We aren't wired same and as such we can't be treated same, and so should be the case with information and usability of things. Simply put, let's think about it...

[1] by Kgele Leso