[Harvestry in a conversation]

'In young you vie for curiosity, in old you seek depth' [1]. When you sit down with anyone you always expect something to get out of their conversation with you else it'll be for nothing. Talking to someone you're either getting your time's worth or you're giving off their time's worth, in other words meaning you learn or teach.

How many times have you sat with someone and felt you're wiser than you were before the talk? My guess is, many times. Same goes for having had sat and but be left feeling you've wasted your time. But then, what if you're the one who's wasting other people's time? My guess again is, you may not be noticing it, but if you're observant and analytical enough you'll know for signs are always there to pick up.

The conversation flow with a young person won't be similar in form compared to the one with an older person. The content may be same but the context be too far apart, hence you find at times there being a conteck ex nihilo. In some cases be that it stems from misquoting or levels of content understanding. In other cases a pure misjudgment of people's levels. But what matters is that each must come out with something taken from whatever that got discussed.

In conclusion: everyday you live to make a contribution, negative or positive, but it remains a dent in another's life however you look at it. Again, it doesn't say every single sentence you utter should be meaningful, just that most of the time it should be. Truth is, you should allow for yourself to be a fool, be naive or carefree at times in order for you to learn or impart wit, and that's being abase. There's a lot you can learn by just being unassuming.

Above all, the greatest takeaway from this is to learn or teach, but mostly learn from anyone you meet, greet, talk to or hear from, as growth comes from such humbling encounters sometimes. By merely tapping into their mental zone you mined an oracy heap to sort out later. Learn to engage in conversations with people who sound knowledgeable or inquisitive in order to get the point of it all, your harvestry in that conversation...dp

[1] by Kgele Leso

[Uncomfortable truths to cost in life]

With authority becoming a complex sentiment de fur of late, what you want to do gets weighed against what you have to do and for whom. Defying the odds of one's own life plan is a suicidal move that separates being successful from being achieved. How the game is set, leaving you with the decision to either being the game changer, game planner or the rule maker, in order to own the player, their opponent and the spectator. Trouble is, should you allow self the missed opportunity of partaking, a consensual affirmation of your reduction as a game board.

What you miss in the control hierarchy, however you look at it, is that the new normal is no longer in pairs of binomials only but rather by trinomials too. That which was formerly called a third wheel is now a permanent fixture in the equation. It's now white, black or a bit of both/off colour. Recognize that, else you're tossed out. If you look at life with cost attached to it, know that your path is on a shape up.

Whistling behind is a loud screaming by this other fact that wants you to know about, and that's being that in life the most interestingly important numbers are one, three and seven. As a human being you are the trinity (me, myself and I) that is faced with a trilemma (ie. living as a single, married or divorced person who's heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual in your friends and family front, career front or public front) everyday of the seven days of the week that gives you a full circle, thus translating to 52 of those full circles which makes a year. What this means is that every seven days you come full circle, which says you have a new start in that cycle via start of every week. Now, think of the cost of all your lost opportunities in all those 52 full circles you have until your next birthday celebration. How many weeks in your year are you being productive and those you're not? It's alarming to be honest.

With us all fighting for control of self and of others, you need to establish your stance in the control hierarchy, which is authority, influence and power. You are given power by virtue of birth, it takes none other than YOU self to strip self off that power. Power is when you rule, influence is when you control, and authority is when you manage. A lot are at the point of self given authority and are mistaking it for power 'cause they've got freedom of speech to utter power, freedom of movement to be wherever they want to show off their supposed power, freedom of thought to think they've got power, and the freedom to still want more. Power comes at a cost, over time and with experience, and with self-authority you get to learn that something comes after nothing and that for then as someone you matter only to yourself and to matter to others when you're somebody. So, as self-authorized you are someone and with power are somebody.

Failure to get your stance right, a cost to you. Cost results from many factors in one's life like your attitude, decisions, ignorance, family background, choice of association, who/what you are, lifestyle orientation, and many other situational aspects. What this mean is that there's cost to any and everything in life. You need to be in touch with your consciousness full time to understand what it's all about. From how you act to whom you act as, etc, it all matters. It's about how you calculate loss and gain, where life has placed you, who is in charge of your mercy, and how good you are at reversing your miscalculations all the time. It's about loss to your value in terms of your brand's worth, personally or corporately.

In conclusion: in business, failure to calculate your cost the first costly mistake that carries a hefty regret called downfall, but then again, apart from that, cost is found in everything, be it an opportunity, luck, time or you. Cost of opportunity ranks top in that every single success story a result of it, luck follows in how you create your own in any situation you're planted in, then to time which entail your age, processes and sequencing (ie. prioritization), and lastly you. With you it's clear as daytime running lights; when people meet you for the first time, which side of you do they encounter? Is it character or personality, and how much of you resides in each? As you, are for loyalty or for honesty? Truth is, by simply being yourself can cost you dearly.

If you're enlightened enough you'll analyze and start working at self. Pity all answers lie in there within you as all depends on your school of thought. Cost isn't the measure to success or failure, but a point of view I believe summons your attention. What you do after being awakened to this bit I shared with you, entirely up to you what you make of it in your mark up...dp

[Growth for purpose]

After a session with my manager earlier today I got to ask myself the very questions we had. We talked about an empty delivery box that was placed on a stool after being emptied its contents, he compared it to us but with me being his arsenal target. He asked me if I were an empty box, would I be repurposed or discarded after serving my purpose? Where would I be placed if be reused, in the open for people to see me or hidden? What size and type of box would I be? If found useful, would I be reusable or recycled. It made me think different of my behavior, growth and purpose.

We later took a turn to his other point in connection to that talk. He also asked me how do I spot a businessperson over the rest? He told me more often than not, you'll fail to pinpoint with accuracy a businessperson. How do a businessperson look like, sound like and feel like when in your space? Asked me to work on self to know all the answers to his questions as it's important for my growth.

As a people we are and do different but success for purpose wants same of us, while growth on the other hand demanding many from us instead. His parting question; "How do you source the brilliance in you for the brilliance of others?" in that as a person in business you lead and be led. Our talk left me in a state of questioning my quality, direction and his thoughts of me. Clearly I am not doing fine. But then, where do I start after everything he said?

Trying to recall from the top when we met today what triggered it all, remembered it was about being trustworthy and reliable, that it's of no use if you can be trusted but not be there always when needed. That, one may not be trusted but be there always. And if running an ongoing concern like a business you need those you can rely on more than be trusted at times. Said he but wants both from me, someone trusted whom he can rely on for both our growths for the purpose of our working relationship. As such, an empty box should be same; be available, be strong enough for its load, serve its purpose for both its growth in importance to the user and for growth of its user from getting reliability out of its dependability.

In conclusion: a hungry man isn't always an angry man, but rather someone who deserves a chance at being heard. As an empty box will I be heard when choosing the contents I'd love to carry? To him, as my manager, is he the right box purposed to contain my growth? To me, am I the empty box he wanted or that which he's got no choice but just do with? Is my capacity bringing out brilliance in him? It put me in a space of uncertainty yet rooted in surety that he's there for me and hoping I be there for him too at most of times if not always.

On the businessperson question still got me doubting my accuracy. Truth is, with a lot of them it's a case of self betrayal of portrayal. It got me asking myself how does empty success feel like? It showed me that a lot of businesspersons are of the view that they are successful but in truest sense not. And with me, I may not look like a businessperson but I'll work hard to ensure that I make people experience my presence, and push for success no matter the circumstances 'cause I built myself this far to live in serve of my existent purpose, and grow myself for others...dp

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[Consequence of hope]

We all give it and receive it from others and things. Hope knows no status, race, territory, name, etc, as it's a neutral noun that is important for anyone's spirit in down times and during moments of wander. Hope doesn't matter what size the wish is for, it boosts the feeling of possibility and ignite positive vibes.

When you give it out it carries a promise that delivery will be realized at the end of your projected result of the collective desire. What should be clearly expressed in it though is the role players, timeline, challenges and process buy-in. Hope is a phenomenon that requires responsibility, sensitivity, accessibility, certainty and fulfillment. The danger with it is its ability to break or make a person as because of it one plan around it, risk for it, lie with it, and or anything that may hurt the other if not materialized. Think of what may happen if their hope deferred indefinitely. Remember, knowledge isn't wisdom, but both will teach you respect for others' feelings of disappointment.

Hope seeks the voice of reason, the bold type, the impact communicator, the shift pacer, the word keeper, and the humane material, as it's about the transporting of despaired and broken soles to a trusted and motivated space of belief in their fragile selves, the course and you, before getting to the point of experienced results in the end.

In conclusion: hope unfortunately has some consequences attached to it no matter the circumstance. Giving it sans surety a pure deception. The good intentions that paddled it no longer apply should it be that the promise maker doesn't break through. Again, integrity and reputational damage may be suffered in the process, so, don't be shy to come clean should it be that the promise is not as thought out. To avoid any mishaps, be honest to self about the affordability on your side of the end goal to promise. It's simple, be safe, and the best way to stay safe is sizing the hope to your ability success. If you find that you won't afford its undesirable outcome, steering clear of it the best decision for it's out of your jurisdiction...dp