[Split unity]

Some things sometimes make you forget who you are, at times make you act like you don't care, but what matters is why you do it and whom for. Anger is not hatred and tough love comes from a good place, and that's a caring heart.

Every family has those heated moments and what gets said during them not to be taken to heart. Enemies use many ways and people to get their way into breaking others. The quickest example is that of divide and conquer, and the divider all of the time wins because those involved are cut off from each other. But then, what if a family employs a different approach in its strategy to fight back the divider.

If a family does allow for the divisive element to divide them, and through the factions formed within their home, do form separate units of strength against the divider, the battle will be returned to the agent of division.

Finding one's own voice and thought a result of looking at the world in a different way and acting in an unconventional manner. When there's some bad vibe that comes in between you and your family or team, build smaller teams to fight back the negative energy. To uproot disunity you have to be deeply rooted in unity, and the only way to achieving that being through positivity and common love advancing built one smaller group into the other until it's a whole collective again.

In conclusion: playing bad against the bad guy not a bad idea, the end goal here is split unity. Coming back stronger from a divisive phase not an easy task to win as other minds already eating out of the divisive element's palm. To win back your family or team from a divisive realm is to balance your criticism of the divider. The trick is to do as recommended and but with reservations so you be able to revert to your stance once tested your compatibility to their approach.

So, if you're in lead, do listen and carefully observe, and but if not bearing the desired result to simply pro-act against the force to counter its next move. Life is a game, and so is leadership; just know how to play it...dp 

[Etisha pele bao ba go beago pele]

Season's greetings; filled with hope for a better start this time around as we dub 2021 the year of vaccination, and a year to remember those who were there for us in our darkest hour. After a past year of misgivings, I hope we will spread the message of "Etisha pele bao ba go beago pele" in SePedi or in English "Put to the fore those who place you first" in this times of shared limited resources.

Circumstances shape mindsets, no matter the outcomes being good or bad, and that's what's happening now going forth. There's no doubt that the pandemic has come with it an opportunity for new markets and a new way of living (or should I say New World Order?). The same did happen a thirty odd years ago via HIV/AIDS. Before then, people were mating differently from how it's done now with condoms. Fast forward to today, the world's population is going to live and behave in a fashion unlike in pre-pandemic times, and the true fact is that our lives will never be the same ever again.

In this trying times we join hands with one goal of defeating the pandemic. What needs be said and taught should be the message of forging new lasting relations for post-pandemic era. It shouldn't be a secret that whoever not on your side in this time will not form part of the future inventory of your beneficiation cycle. If they are not here with you now they're simply not there for you and best you remember that when the situation gets better.

In conclusion: if I fail you now I am failing our future and as such I am erasing myself from your life. The person you surround yourself with now matters if they're sticking with you. Truth is, that person who is there in your down moment and assuring you time and again how it's okay and about how soon it'll be better is very much important to you even if they have nothing to offer than those with gold and diamond who promise them should you make it or wanting you after you've made it. So, treat that person with love and respect, and put them first...dp

[Retrograde rebound]

How do you look at your next partnership coming from the one with teared emotion from its endless drama? How long do you take before jumping into the next? How will you treat the next partnership? What does the backdrop of the partner say about where they come from? Do you know why?

A rebound is something of a double edged sides, it needs those involved in it to be supportive of one another. You both got an experience of a common something though differing in circumstances, and that the key to your bind. What sometimes puts you off rails is finding selves not going the same direction yet of the same mind to your set goal.

Past experience a blast of good memories whilst a trauma for the next. The formation of a new partnership comes with a lot of interesting things to be very knowledgeable about and some to be questioned before going in too deep. How we address these issues an options list to tick from. The biggest challenges to work on are balance and commonity.

Retrograde is when you turn in opposite direction yet together, bringing to the fore the question of what will you achieve that way. If you go clockwise and the partner going anti-clockwise, clearly you aren't as winning as you imagined. So, coming in on rebound course and on retrograde, not much will be in your bag.

In conclusion: in getting each other from the previous experiences of either good or bad, each need to offload all that was good and bad, how they felt of those experiences and what they felt should've been where they felt wronged. Whether in life or in business, if you want to build a solid relationship with someone, you ought to start there with heart to mind sessions. We sometimes fail in business as we treat it like a foreign phenomenon to our feelings, while it's very personal. Let's be prograde and good things will come out of our relationships...dp 

[Refrain from bad vibes]

Life of business is infested with many tiny squabbles that if not managed well can lead to frenimity bubbles. The danger lies in you not knowing how to deal with disappointments and angers stemming from failures and mistakes. At times it just drains you, especially if you're faced with bad communication.

The key is developing the ability to spot at face value any signs of future troubles right there and then. For example, inviting a clueless somebody into business and be expecting them to have an instant understanding of what it means being in that strange space. Truth is, the business world is a strange space for one to find selves in, hence you lose friends and family so quick because of their failure to be sensible, supportive and respectful of your chosen path.

In business there're no quick earnings, everything takes time in that you build in stages that require recapitalization from time to time. Flop is, many people find the idea of being a business person as a fashionable status that they can do with success if they wanted to anytime. Fact is, there's no space for such in business.

The mistake we make at times is accepting guarantees and loans sans getting it right what they are in their truest sense from those advancing it to us. We need to educate those we engage with enough about relations with businesspersons and money so as to avoid unforeseen boat rockers. Apart from educating others, we too need to be well informed of what we require for our advancements. That'll help a great deal when conversing with others so we not go into arrangements and agreements that aren't peace bearing.

Also, business isn't for the lazy to read and research, unless you have tons of tender bills to your name. How will you communicate your dream and vision to success? Unless you're to work alone, there wouldn't be a need for constant upskilling of self. You need to be abreast with local, national and international current affairs if you're to connect with any aspirant and your prospective partners, investors and consumers with ease for impression. Be not lost in the fog, business is about impression every move you make.

In conclusion: anger is brought unto us  by selves unfortunately in many a times in how we fail to communicate clearly, represent ourselves well and position our both personal and corporate brands well.  How we address wrong takes should tell how matured and willing are we to our retakes. We need each other and how we relate today has an impact on our future, so we should do what's right most of the day in our dealings with others. We need to refrain from bad vibes for our growth...dp

[Peace of your money]

What gives you peaceless patches of times in your quiet moments? I don't want to turn this to me since I'm sensing you contemplate on that. Thing is, I got to learn a lot from experiences given by the business world in conjunction with money, and so are you.

Money creates friendships and breaks them. The security brought by money equates to the dignity depository on someone who's important to the economy. The economy responds better to you and treats your name with respect better than it does to the one with nothing much to their names. The open secret to life is to acquire the most important part of respect and that is money, outstanding leadership and repute. With those you're guaranteed power and more earnings potential. But atop those, you ought to be well read and informed so you be able to keep evolving.

A lot of interesting times we can't tell our value yet saying we know our worth. Our metrics is mostly based on the industry wages and that being our benchmark. It is laughable that in business still a lot of players don't know what they worth, whilst some pity selves against their own bank account digits, plussing that with their business income to arrive at the number stuck on selves as their worth.

No matter how much airtime we may give to the subject, it at the end of the day circle the issue of money. What we make, how we make it; what we lose and how much at what rate and why. It's a matter of ratio and values, that works out personal and collective worth. The standardization determined by factors that are drawn from both personal and professional background basis, academic attributes, self development and the result of the personal brand you are.

How bankable is your personal brand and yourself? How liquid are you? We forget how solvent we are in our worth and only be reminded that the day we want to buy debt. Most of us rank low in current debt buy and but ranking high on unsecured debt futures. With that, we become hard to invest on as we're assets that aren't guaranteeing lossproof to the risk takers in the now moment, unless they find something to hold one onto for their future with them.

In conclusion: then, what happens to the money you're having? Does it earn enough for you? Does it enhance your value in self accume? Does it give you inner happiness and peace? Are you sure where you've put it is secure? If your money doesn't give you peace, where are you moving it to? At the same breath, how confident are you with the peace you'll give to the money of the risk taker on you? The same way you want peace from your money so does them. How you don't want to lose it, so are they. So, work on being thy peace of your money, and so you'll be to that of another's...dp

[Reality is bold and actual]

There's nothing as real about reality than it's realness. When you touch yourself and things, what you feel is tangible and then be those intangible stuffs that you feel and sense yet can't touch. The world of business and career is leaned on both, and same goes for life.

Now, to you: what's your harshest reality? To some of you, reality comes from that view in your mirror, some from every wake, some from looking at peers, but the realness of whatever you see and feel only a result of your comparison and self-judgment. Sometimes it's good to judge yourself before any person does. To others it's a negative thing to your esteem but still done unto you by others, so why not just do it to self then? Unfortunately, the reality you run away from of criticizing self will be met with harsh statements by others to you about you at times, and that's more hurtful than it is unto self.

People live by different standards; some by their own, some by their parents, some by society, others by social class, and however you see it everyone fits in somewhere. So, when you lead, who's standard are you conforming to? Which side are you finding comfort in during your deepest challenges? Gender does also come into play when confronted with tough situational dealings. How one fares pretty much reliant on the behavior and shaped by the gender and standards.

Reality uncovers a lot of clothed flaws. It is only the fabric of that cover that will be the center of attention when the subject is brought to light. It doesn't matter what is underneath, it will definitely meet its reality when time comes, be it its try out, or implementation or conceptualizing process. Those standards will be your own critic before anyone else utters any word about that.

One of the toughest parts to master and conquer is mating of thought and reality. Truth is, you may dream anyhow you may but what rules is the reality to your pursuit of wanting to make it live.

In conclusion: reality is bold and actual, and anything in between hanging on fact or fiction...dp

[Failure an experience to success]

Success a challenge to a failed thought. The only remedy for such a damaged mind is settling doubt that roams free in question how you didn't see it that way or done it the other way. Giving up is the capital builder of non-progression in any situation, as it breeds the culture of surrender to negativity.

When someone fail, we need to look into what they lacked to be successful, or what they didn't do or say, anything that gives an answer to what actually caused the failure. We don't have to judge and but be instead supportive of their courage to do it once again, or teach them how to be better in it come next attempt. Something good out of failure is the lesson learned from that experience, none can take that away from you.

One thing that everyone needs to avoid is reside in their zone of failure in their mental state. Don't give failure that satisfaction, take over its power and assume your position. Let neither a friend, family, partner or anyone have shine on your failure. You should be also understanding of what you've actually failed in, in the process. Is it your dream and vision, is it your family and friends, is it your clients and the general public, or it's just you that you've let down? It matters to your mental balance and courage to do it again.

The danger sometimes some fall into is being hard on self and end up failing to forgive themselves. Don't shed your self-love and esteem because of a mistake, and remember always that there's a reason why we have a retake. Learn to be gentle to your flaws and be understanding of your shortcomings. After your shutter comes your rebuild; a perfect chance to reconstruct, reconcile, and reinvent oneself so you re-emerge a remodeled and better version of self.

In conclusion: we all fail at some point in our lives, but that not saying it's the end of the line. Failure is an important hurdle to factor in our outlook for outcomes. It thus not but mean it should dominate the thought process. To win failure, laugh at its eventuality and voice it out that it ain't over for it as you might not succeed second time around.

Your surest asset in beating failure is your attitude towards life and your dream. If only realize that success has no small in it but rather delivery of the result desired of an achieved goal. In short, failing to be satisfied will not make you be close to attaining your happiness. Set your bar high and net satisfaction that'll feed your soul with fulfillment that will in the end see you content, which is the highest form of happiness. So, fail them all but not your happiness. But, what remains is, failure an experience to your success...dp