Nothing is as intense as hope, yet as sad as reality. When you mix the two, you come back with a lesson. The reason we have a lot of alcoholism and substance abuse is the result of the inescapable facts of life lessons we encounter at times. Though not the reason for all who are doing so, but they end up as an answer for a whole lot of them because of being made statistics of failure.
The challenge with demographics is the generalist approach and that is the core factor that drives others there. Take for instance, the issue of upliftment today, it is geared towards women and the youth, thus leaving middle-aged men and the older generation out of those specific programmes of transformation and skills transfer. Then, where to should the middle-aged men and the older ones go for utilization of their skills and knowledge?
I was in a discussion the other day with a young woman after hearing her talk to an other woman who just left the queue. She was blaming a man who raped a woman after following her home from work. The reason for the man was that he got denied a job opportunity because he's 34 and the young woman was 23, unskilled and inexperienced, but cheaper for the employer to keep. The young woman didn't want to dwell on the motive of that man except that he's wrong to rape, and that he should've at least confronted her. The wrongness of rape, yes I got. But then, confront her for what 'cause she's not the employer? It got into an argument and I left it at that as others chipped in.
What I want to bring forth is the pressure from humiliation suffered by that man and the failure by the employer to uplift him as he stood no better chance out there because of age. They should've sat him down and work around his package and hear him first but no, they just decided to overlook his experience and skill, and went with the opposite. What frustration does at times unexplainable, honesty be told, and that's what that man was going through; brokenness. Again, listening to that young woman it clearly said to me that employers overlook maturity as part of their selection criterion these days given her poor reasoning capacity, though can't be saying same about the victim other than that they're of the same age. Further, some youth don't empathize with the middle-aged and the older ones for what they're going through. It's not an obligation but a humane thing to do, just saying.
Whenever I find a person in a vehicle accident I don't question the speed or the gender and age, I nowadays question first what happened. When I see a person consuming alcohol heavily or smoking to cool off I no longer judge, I just question "why?". With the damage caused by Covid and poor state decisions you have to first find the reason why before conclusion on the subject. It's tough out there, think again all the time. Learn to sit down and listen to the story of a person, it won't hurt but instead teach you more.
In conclusion: hope breaks the spirit if not realized. What's heartbreaking is that male personages are campaign leaders that effect the middle-aged men's hardships. Men put pressure on men and it's not talked about. Only men know what to do to control another, to embarrass the other, and how to make him beg, because they know what it feels like being hopeful in pressure, how powerful a promise is to a needy man, and how deeply shattered a man gets every time his plans go the other way, and how pride gets weakened by each failure after hope.
An angry man with hunger in grips on him is always the perfect candidate for crisis creation, just for that one meal to get him by, hence politicians thrive, because there is a way in with hope. There's a saying that: "feed him and his family once, and you've won him forever" and it's true. A hungry man with mouths to feed is the one most vulnerable and is easy to use. If you master that game, you're powerful as he can't say no to you. So, men, protect your hopes, work towards realizing your dreams so you'll be able to feed your families on your own. Fight for what gives you dignity, power and pride, and that's land, production means, skills and knowledge to make your talent make you thrive. Don't be going after other men who promise you empowerment, be with those who are doing upliftment themselves to enrich themselves and their own. Be one of the few to break the scourge of brokenness in hope, let that be your solace...dp
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